He had a relationship with that girl for more than 3 years I guess... he told me that they broke up and no communication for more than a year before meeting me. we're not yet married & our relationship is 11 months and we have a 3 month old daughter and he sleeps in our house (w/ my family ) 5-6 times a week. he told me that there's no reason for me to be jealous coz we are his family now. but the girl keeps on sending sms though she knows that he has a gf already.
2006-12-20 00:21:35 · 17 answers · asked by annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he telling you that you are a family to calm you
you guys are not family...he can go when ever he wants to
2006-12-20 02:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he still talks to a previous girlfriend. She was in his life for 3 years. You've been in his life for less than a year. It's not this other girl's fault that you became intimate with this guy way too soon into the relationship and he has the right to be friends with whomever he wants to be friends with because even though you have a child there doesn't seem to be much of a committment on either one of your parts. That's what happens when you get too involved in a relationship before the relationship actually has time to grow.
2006-12-20 00:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ex needs to stay out of the picture and he needs to respect your feelings and if you are not happy about his communication with the ex, he needs to realise that it's upsetting for you and to reject her messages.
You have every right to be jealous and that is a totally normal response. How would he feel if the tables were turned. There is no reason for this ex girlfriend to be in the picture AT ALL on ANY level. And most unfair to you.
It does not matter if he's with you 5-6 times out of a week, he has no business receiving messages from this woman and you and the child you have together comes BEFORE ANYBODY ELSE.
I'd whip her ***. No, I'd whip his *** first. There maybe nothing at all going on, and his communications are most likely based on the fact they simply know eachother very well and probably chit chat on that level. It doesn't matter, your feelings matter and you are the woman in his life now, not her.
Please, if this hurts you, sit him down and tell him that regardless of there not being anything going on, it causes you to feel uncomfortable and upset that there is any contact between them at all. Ask him to try and put himself in your shoes.
Again, if you are uncomfortable, there is no argument, she needs to be ousted. point blank. He shouldn't even be arguing and giving reasons, you are not happy, that's enough for him to cut contact.
2006-12-20 00:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is not over that relationship,cos if he was ,he was gonna make it clear to the girl that its over between them & that he has u & the baby to take care off.Listen don't get me wrong here these nothing wrong being ur ex friend,as long as u both know that it over!If i were u i was gonna be jealous u every right to be.
2006-12-20 00:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Busie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses to end communication, something is going on. He only admitted b/c you found out. Tell him he either ends communication or it's over. If he doesn't end it after that, he doesn't love you.
2016-05-22 23:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he has not closed out the 1st relationship, and that is something he has to do. You really don't have a reason to be jealous because he is with you. I
2006-12-20 00:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned that he is looking for an exit strategy. It sounds like he got you pregnant on your first date and has basically known you as his pregnant girlfriend for most of the relationship. While he may feel some responsibility for you and the child, I would be very concerned that he would be looking for a way out of this relationship.
2006-12-20 00:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be jealous. Until you're married you're not technically a family. So he could potentially run off with the other girl
2006-12-20 00:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on you, if not physically then emotionally, and he will soon be sleeping with her.
I know what it's like to be the "old" girlfriend. She won't be able to resist tempting him to feel powerful, and he won't be able to resist the big attention--especially if she broke up with him.
It is unfortunate that your baby has such an immature and unfaithful daddy.
2006-12-20 00:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't control his every move. Believe me, sometimes I wish I could control my bf's every move. So if he wants to be with her again --he will be. That said, he is with you and your family because he wants to be. As long as he is good to you and your baby you shouldn't worry. A little jealousy is okay--if it starts to consume your every thought then it is a problem. You could ask him nicely not to reply to her.
2006-12-20 00:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋