People end up getting drunk at a wedding ceremony yet they are celebrating something very holy.How is this so and can it be avoided?
And some of the customs appear pagan to me,why then should the church encourage such ceremonies if they are pagan?Help me solve my confusion!
2006-12-20 00:07:43 · 10 answers · asked by taku 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Weddings don't have to be religious. They are done for legality and society. Too many people are blinded that weddings have to filled with some god - they don't.
2006-12-20 08:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there is a distinction between the ceremony, and the wedding reception. The ceremony is the holy part, and I've rarely heard of anyone being drunk at the ceremony. On the other hand, if the reception has an open bar, then many people will celebrate the wedding too much at the reception. You can avoid this by limiting how much alcohol is at the reception. By not having an open bar, or just a certain amount to be split by everyone, makes for much less drunkeness at the reception.
So really the church may not allow any of it, but if it's at a reception hall away from the church, then they don't have a say in what goes on. It just depends on what the Bride, Groom, and parents of the Bride and Groom prefer at the reception.
2006-12-20 08:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of wedding ceremonies do have their roots in pagan tradition. Initially the wedding ceremony was a pagan celebration, then the Church sort of took over it in an effort to convert more pagans to Christianity with the least fuss. Nowadays, no one thinks of the pagan roots, since the wedding ceremony has generally been a Christian celebration for so long.
The alcohol has also been around for a long time. I don't honestly know why, but people have celebrated important events with alcohol even before Jesus' time. It's the overindulgence of alcohol that's an issue. That's just because people in general really like to get drunk. You don't have to have alcohol at a wedding though, if you don't want to. It's not mandatory.
Wedding ceremonies are important. Basically, it's a rite of passage, just like the birth of a child, your first home, your graduation from college.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-20 08:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK? First off people don't drink during the ceremony unless the whole congregation is given communion.
They drink at the reception because it's a CELEBRATION!
The wedding ceremony is sanctioned by the church that provides it, so I really don't see how that can be construed as "pagan".
Given, receptions can get rowdy, but generally the person that performed the services is invited, so it's not like the church is unaware to consumption of alcohol.
Drinking alcohol is not against God. It's not good to get blitzed all the time, no, but even Jesus drank wine.
2006-12-20 12:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think of a wedding as 2 separate celebrations...the ceremony is a celebration in front of God and the Church, while the reception is a celebration with family and friends.
Not everyone gets drunk at receptions, and not all receptions serve alcohol. Although I don't recommend forgoing alcohol, unless it is for religious or personal reasons, people need a little liquid courage sometimes to help them loosen up.
2006-12-20 11:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confusing the ceremony with the reception, and no, most churches don't allow drinking on their premises, but thats why I'm having an off site reception so that we can have a bar...the church is neither supporting this nor condeming it since its not there. Also, I would like to know what customs appear pagan specifically. Please also take note that while yes, the bible teaches against drunkeness, having a drink or 2 is not biblically speaking wrong.
2006-12-20 11:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ceremony itself does not involve drinking - it's the party afterwards that does and the church does not generally condone that, it's the bride and grooms choice. Of course, you can go back to almost any culture, in and century, and you will find that weddings have always been followed by big celebrations, sometimes lasting for days and very often involving drinking and party games, etc.
2006-12-20 08:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People dont get drunk at the wedding ceremony they get drunk at the wedding reception.
It is like Christmas - you can still celebrate with presents and love the idea of Santa while still respecting Jesus and his life.
You have to find balance between the religoius and social aspects.
2006-12-20 09:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by rickybobbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ceremony is the religious part fo course but you really have to have a celebration with family and friends ..these are people who you specifically pick to be part of that big day... its a great feeling to be at the reception with all those who youcare for and actually invited and to see they all wish the couple well.. open bar can be limited and cheaper that way behaviors dont go out of control...............nothing to be confused about..... a wedding without a reception or booze!!! well...now that is very confusing!!!!!
2006-12-20 09:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by mmm..whynot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have to split the wedding between between the religious aspects and the social celebration of the event. Everyone celebrates in their own way and according to thier own culture and background.
2006-12-20 08:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋