My ex and i have broken up 4 a month and we havent seen each other 4 9 days. I text her that i miss her and wish her good luck on her entry exams for grad school that she had to take today (Her reason 4 not talking or seeing me)and she text back "Thanks babe but my exam date have changed fill u in later"the last time we were together, we were being realistic about if we could get back together.She says she loves me but she doesnt believe that I can change(giving her more attention instead of playing Madden with the fellas, being more involved in what shes into, making her feel special, and she doesn’t like coming over to my place and feel like shes just one of the guys in a way since my friends came over all the time)Even though it didnt seem like we were going to go out again, when she laid in my arms and slept with me, the bubble bath we shared , and the meal i made 4 her that day makes me feel like we will get together again. She says we broke up but were not over.
2006-12-20 00:02:34 · 6 answers · asked by J Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don’t know what to do. I love her but don’t want to act press . I told her that I will change not just 4 her but 4 myself because I believe she is right that I need to bring the spark back to make it work.She did ask what if in a year things are the same we fight and stuff. I said I wouldn’t want to be with some1 that I could not make happy. I would think u were out of my league. But in my heart I feel that I can and that’s y I want to get a 2nd chance to see what can be instead of what if . What do u think is it over 4 us and I need to move on?
2006-12-20 00:02:44 · update #1
If you willing to draw the line between her and your friends than you guys can get back together,some advice spend more time with her but make time for your friends ,don't treat her like the guys she should feel like your life revolves around making her happy.Try exciting things but she must enjoy it just to keep the spark,write poems,get a song for the two of you to remember for ever,watch the sun come up ,spend a weekend alone away from everyone just keep her happy and she will keep you happy ,good luck i hope everything works out.
2006-12-20 00:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on whether you are willing to make a complete change and pay her the attention that she craves. Or get with a girl that loves madden as much as you and can beat the pants off of you. It sounds like you are forcing yourself to be different when it comes to this girl.
2006-12-20 00:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys must be young and maybe she is trying to concentrate on her studies right now. She probably still has feelings for you but does not want to get hurt again. I would suggest be friends for now and if you guys can make it work great but if she isn't really interseted anymore, move on. Good Luck.
2006-12-20 00:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to figure out where your priorities are, and she also needs to figure out that it's ok for a guy to have time to himself and his friends. You both need to compromise. It's a learning experience and it's ok to make mistakes and grow, even if you split and make up.
I'm sure you are both probably young and it's very normal for guys to be with their mates. She needs to realise that. If you were older and married, I would understand, but I hope she gives you a break sometimes!
But looking at it from her side, she obviously does not have any interest in becoming "one of the guys", so she's not likely to join you, even if you would like her to! She obviously wants to feel feminine and special and not to be placed with the other guys or to feel that she takes a backseat from them.
It's up to you how you feel. Are you ready for a relationship? Or do you feel as though you are young and want to enjoy your mates at this point? If your mates come before her, then you need to seperate and take time out from girls! If she comes before them, then your mates need to take a backseat from her!
There is no reason to shut the mates out, but if your girlfriend matters to you enough, then definitely sort this out and work something out so your mates are not going to flood her out.
How much is she prepared to allow for the sake of staying with you? and how much are you prepared to put aside for the sake of staying with her? Both of you need to compromise.
2006-12-20 00:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds fed up with you. Maybe you took a bit too long to put the controller down, and pay attention to her. Time will tell.
2006-12-20 00:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....sounds like neither of you want it to be over.....talk to her...see if there is someway to get back on track...but understand that she is going to be very busy in grad school and will need support, space, time, and understanding...when you do have time to get together, it would not be cool for your buddies to always be there....good luck
2006-12-20 00:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋