Did my feelings destroy our friendship?

Question

I mistakenly sent a good friend of mine an email telling her that I had a crush on her. Even though I poured my feelings out, it was at the wrong time. Her ex-boyfriend recently died around that time (she didn't tell me about it) and now she's blocked my address. I feel terrible that I can't explain myself and now I've lost a friend over a misconception.

Was I wrong, or is she just overreacting? Will I get a chance to explain myself again or should I just forget about her? I think she wasn't worth it anyway if she won't let me respond.

I think she unblocked my address, I just sent an email apologizing for my last email and saying I'm here to support her.
I don't know what'll happen now...

Answer 1

wow, thats intense. It basically sounds like it was just a miscommunication and the timing was way outta whack.

she may have taken your email as you trying to replace her boyfriend. she may not have known that you didnt know. i can tell you that losing your bf (not just from dying but from moving etc.) is really tough and having another guy, even though his intentions are good, it sometimes seems like hes trying to replace the bf.
it sounds like she was also just a little shocked because you guys are good friends. it's not everyday a gets an email from a guy pouring his feelings out, but dont worry, most s dig that sensitive side. good for you!

i dont think you were wrong in telling her your feelings, because you may never get the chance or muster up the courage to do it again. She probably was just overreacting. i mean her bf did die and all thats pretty tough. don't worry, she'll move on and realize that theres a great guy who is honest about his feelings standing right there (YOU!)
don't forget about her, just wait a few months until everything cools down nd be like "so joanna, i wanted to discuss an email i sent a few months ago. i still have feelings for you but i realize now that you were going through a rough patch, but hey do you want to go out for dinner this weekend?" or something along those lines.

oh, and if you pour your feelings out for a , shes worth it.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. I mistakenly sent an email to a guy who was in a stable relationship i had a crush on too saying how i felt ( i thot it was to my best friend cos id opened to windows at once) He sent me email saying he didnt want to speak to me again. I sent email back saying i was sorry and understood.
It hurt alot cos we were such good friends.
after 6 months of no contact he sends email and then calls me.
We're not dating but im so happy to have him back as a friend i can live with it.

Pray about it and give her the space she needs.
Since she's blocked ur email why not send her a card expressing your sympathy over her loss and put a note in it explaining what happened. You can also let her know that you'll respect her right not to want to contact you and let her know that you'll be there for her whenever she needs you as a friend


God bless

Answer 3

Sounds like you tried to jump from the friend ladder and landed in the abyss. Move on she only wanted to be friends with you at least you have the right attitude if she won't let you respond she's not worth it.

Answer 4

The time at present won't be right, yet in time you don't understand what is going to take place. you may stay in touch, and you ought to have a magnificent friendship, who knows, what would be would be!

Answer 5

yes it was the wrong time
give her time to heal
if she cares about you in any way she will respond
too much for her to handle
if you feel she isn't worth it then you don't really care about her
so you wasted the words you e mailed to her.
you have a problem. she doesn't .

Answer 6

She thinks you were being insensitive about her loss. Give it time to blow oveer and you will be okay.