We are too poor to pay for everyone that comes!
2006-12-19 02:07:47 · 15 answers · asked by micah z 4 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
I apreciate all the answers, but having it at my home is not an option because we have a very tiney 2 bedroom home. I would ask my mother in law but she is hosting his birthday 2 weeks after the baptism and i do not want to take advantage of her. My mother lives too far away. After reading your answers, my husband and i have decided to try to cut it back and bite the bullet on the check. If you have any other suggestions i will be more than happy to read them. Most creative gets the best answer!
2006-12-19 06:22:39 · update #1
The phrase you're looking for is...
"A no host lunch will be held at_______ immediately following the service."
2006-12-19 03:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by dph 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should put anything in there as far as that goes. I know you probably want to have people around, but they may take it the wrong way. If you are hosting a luncheon, you pay, that's just the way it is. Your close friends and family can be told personally or over the phone about your plans, anything else would just set you up to "being cheap" or if someone did show up and did not understand, may be misconstrude as "poor taste". Enjoy your family after the baptism, that is what it is all about.
2006-12-20 00:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you "invite" people to something, you are responsible to some degree to host the event. If it is assumed pepole are bringing a gift to the event, then it is also assumed that the hosts are providing something as well. it need not be extravagant. Cake and coffee at the church if possible, or at your home. Do you have friends/family that would be willing to make a few things for a small buffet lunch? If you can't afford even that, don't invite people. I don't mean to sound crass, but that's the way it is.
2006-12-19 05:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My opionion is you should not add to invitations, should be posted at your church in the bulletin or whereever you have your announcements for coming events:
The---------- Family will be having a luncheon after the baptism of their son at ------time, all are welcome to come. You will need to bring your own table service and a dish to pass.
We are unable to afford an extravagant event with food and entertainment, but believe for our sons' sake that he should be congratulated and have friends and family enjoy this special occasion with us.
I would think that your church and the community would help with this kind of function if you are a regular member.
Hope this helps. Merry Christmas/Happy New Year! and congratulations on the baptism.
2006-12-19 02:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Havnoclue 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could include with an invitation a response card entailing that you will be serving a Dutch lunch after the Baptism. Why would you not just have a buffet/ Pot Luck at your house... it would be economical and show your appreciation. You could also request everyone to bring a dish.
2006-12-19 02:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Biker Babe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately, it's just not socially acceptable to "host" a lunch where people will pay for their own meals, particurlarly because many of them may bring gifts for the baptism. Hold a small reception and serve a light lunch. It can be done on a tight budget. Serve finger sandwiches, iced tea, and assorted tiny pastries. Call it "High Tea".
2006-12-19 05:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by godiva 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are not in a position to pay the bill for all, it would be tacky to include an invitation to lunch with the Baptism invitation.
Instead, you could:
a) Pass the word at the Baptism that everyone is headed to the restaurant afterwards and, if folks do not have other plans, they would be free to join you.
b) send everyone attending a separate note that you wil be going to the restaurant afterwards and they are free to join you.
Either way, you would not be indicating that you were prepared to bpay the bill.
2006-12-19 02:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Chef Bob 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hand write on each invite that some of the family will be going to _____ for lunch following the service and if you would like to join us the cost will be approximately $_____ depending on your order. I doubt that it would pass Emily Post's requirements, but it accomplishes what you need in a nice way.
2006-12-19 02:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would think that if you can't afford to have the dinner than you shouldn't. It wouldn't be right to ask guests to come when you know they will bring a gift, and can't give them a little hospitality. A pot luck would be a good idea. Just ask a few close family members to bring a few dishes to help with the cost.
2006-12-19 02:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you cant afford a restaurant, then hold it at your home. Have everyone bring a dish, or just do a brunch with bagels and lox, make a florentine ring, buy a big sandwich, have a cake or some cookies and make a punch. Its easy peasy, lemon squeezy!
2006-12-19 03:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋