HPV. Do I have it or not? what should i do?

Question

I have been seeing this girl for less than a month now. We have had sex twice (once with a condom and the other time i was a bit drunk and took the condom off in the very end bc i wasnt being able to ***). Yesterday we were talking about what we wanted as far as a relationship goes and stuff and she ended up telling me that she has HPV. She said she is not contagious at the time and has not had an outbrake in 4 months. She has only had sex with 5 people including me so is not like she is a slut.

My question is, i've been googlingn HPV all day today and from what i gather, if she was not having an outbrake most likely she was not contagious and therefore I didnt get it but how do you know for sure? I mean, since there is no tests for men and no symptoms other than an outbrake what do i do? Do i assume i dont have it? or that i do?
Also, is it bad that i dont really wanna continue seeing this girl? I mean, she is really cool and all but the thought of a STD is really freaking me out.

Answer 1

Only one way to find out. Go see a Doctor.

Answer 2

Most likely, you are infected with HPV. Just go to a doctor or a clinic so they can evaluate you to make a correct determination.

If you don't want to continue seeing her, it is your choice. I think you should stop seeing her if she didn't tell you about the HPV before ya'll ever had sex. If she was honest with you, and told you to always wear a condom to be protected, then she was doing the right thing. You have to remember that HPV is an extremely common STD. Because she had so many partners, it greatly increased the chance of getting HPV, which she did. I would not be surprised if there are other STDs as well. It would be a good idea to have her get tested for all the other STDs.

Answer 3

HPV can be transmitted with the use of a condom or without. It is transmitted from skin to skin contact. It does not harm the male partner,at least not to the extent in women,some men will develope warts, but you can transmit it to others once you have been exposed. There is a treatment for men to kill the virus, just ask you doctor or healthcare provider. Your girlfriend had been misinformed if you think you can't transmit it without an outbreak as there are so many different types of HPV. It is the same with genital herpes, you still can get them even without an outbreak present. Some types of HPV cause no outbreaks or warts. HPV is a very common virus. There is a new vaccine called guardacil that can provent certain types of HPV that is approved for girls starting at age ten.

Answer 4

Well, I guess it is the fear of the unknown that gets to everybody! HPV is an STD. Yes, she got it from sexual contact. Most likely she got it from someone who didn't even know he was infected. No, she isn't a ****. She is a woman who trusted someone, just like you did; or got caught up, just like you did, and happened to get HPV, just like you might have.

HPV has become so common that most health care providers are starting to not get very worked up about it unless it is the high risk type that leads to cervical cancer in women. It is true that there are some issues with men with high risk HPV, however, only the low risk HPV causes symptoms such as warts in either men or women. These types do NOT lead to cancer. Though they may be inconvenient and ugly, they are the least harmful.

HPV is thought to be in the body for long periods of time. However, it is also thought to also resolve itself as well. Even worse, it is true that not even condoms provide sufficient protection against transmission because parts of the genitalia are exposed and the virus can be there as well. It is hard to say if you would be exposed or not.

NOW, here is the HIT!!! Now that you have done the "DO", and you really like this girl, why do you want to just dismiss her that way? She is not a leper. Odds are there is a possibility that you were infected before you met her. That's how prevalent HPV is. Yes, men can have the High Risk types of HPV and not even know that they have it and transmit it to another woman.

See a doctor with her and make informed decisions. Don't just dismiss her like that. If your really like her, then you owe it to yourself and to her to at least give the relationship the benefit of doubt. Think of it this way, what if you had an STD and she found out...would you want her to dismiss you? Would you want your sex life to completely be OVER? Of course not.

Talk to her about it. See your doctor and make informed decisions.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Heres the deal...If she was having outbreaks, then she probably had low-risk HPV (the one that causes warts). So if she didnt have any when you had sex, then you probably didnt get anything from her.

HPV is not typically tested in men.

HPV is VERY VERY common among women...it is estimated that approx 80% of women will experience it in their lives at some point. Most commom is High-Risk HPV that causes abnormal cervical cells and might lead to cancer.

Most guys actually carry the virus, but never know.

Now-a-days HPV isnt so "taboo" anymore...it is SO SO SO common and normal to have it. Support your GF and i am sure that if you have other women down the line you will run into this issue again.

Answer 6

Some of the posts have given you some very good information about HPV. Do not listen to the people that say you cannot get it or have it if you are a man. I used to work at a family planning clinic and I have seen men with visible warts. If men can't get it, how do you suppose your girl got infected. Let's use our common sense.

My issue is with the deception of your partner. What kind of trust can you have if she will expose you to STD's? That isn't cool.

Answer 7

I don't think its bad that you no longer want to see her. She could have told you about the HPV in the first place, but only did AFTER you had sex with her, so she deceived you. Also, as far as HPV goes, a man can not get it and there is no such "outbreak." Now, a man can pass it on, if he has unprotected sex with one partner, doesn't wash off and has sex with another woman. Sounds like this person is not being completely honest with you all around. On here, I'm not one to tell people to break up, because I don't like "messing" with people's lives, but I would drop her like a bad habit because there is no telling what else she is not telling you!
Good Luck

Answer 8

HPV causes genital warts. Warts dont just break out and go away, (that is herpes) warts get bigger, you wont know you have it right away, but they spread and start to look like cauliflower on the womans vagina and even on anus and the mans penis. It usually takes 3 or 4 weeks for them to start coming up. They do not go away, without they are frozen off, or burnt off with a laser.
I would be very pissed if someone didnt give me the option of knowing they had an std before sleeping with them! It is only decent since she knew she had it first, I am a nurse and we used to burn them off in surgery with a laser, if you let them go to far they spread like crazy and are very infectious to a partner. She knew if she told you first, you wouldnt have probably slept with her. Honesty is best, the truth would have to come out anyway if you stayed with her. But you should have had that option instead of having to worry about this now. That is cruel and irresponsible.

Answer 9

Human Papilloma Virus (HPV), is the virus which can cause cervical cancer in women. The virus can cause penile cancer and anal cancer in men, but the rates are low and more prevalent in those who are immunocompromised. Women are more susceptible to the virus than heterosexual men. You should be cautious because if you have contracted the virus, you could pass it on to other female partners. HPV is not like Herpes, warts may develop, but HPV tends to resolve on it's own and treatment is not usually needed. I would not worry too much about HPV, but I do suggest you and your girlfriend both get tested for other STD's if you plan on having unprotected sex.

Answer 10

Believe me, the next girl you date is just as likely to have HPV. 80% of women carry the virus in one form or another so good luck finding one who doesn't. If she has the type that causes genital warts and has had them successfully removed then she would not be contagious to you. Ask her what type of treatment she recieved if you are concerned. Most types of HPV viruses clear on their own in time. I urge you to talk this out and understand that even you may be carrying this virus. It tends not to present symptoms in men unless it is the wart causing strain.

Answer 11

i had a run in with hpv about a year ago. my gf at the time ended up with it. interesting thing was, it was in mid relationship. i was with her for nearly 3 years. i didnt mess around, and i knew her well enough that im certain she didnt sleep with any one else. im thinkin one of us picked it up from somewhere. its uncommon to get it from an external source, but possible. anyhow, she ended up with cancer. i never have shown any visible signs. ive been checked 3 times. anywho, i broke up with her and had a new partner about a year later. that relationship didnt last long, but she ended up with it too, which unfortunately i found out after i slept with my current g/f. my doc told me that guardacil would still be helpful to my g/f since we only had sex for the first time like 3 weeks ago. dunno if there is any truth to that, but i suppose anything that can help is good. bottom line is, crap happens man. take life as it comes. if u do leave her, dont have sex for at least a year. ive heard recently that you can be reinfected from your partner. when i asked my doctor a year ago he said i couldnt be reinfected. theres allot of mixed info, so just do what seems smarter. and one other thing, if you rub vinegar on your junk its supposed to make some small warts show up that u cant otherwise see.