How Do I ask a Girl I am interested in if she has an Std or Oral herpes?

Question

A girl I like might have oral herpes. I don't want to catch it. How should I ask.

Answer 1

Just ask her. Its better than you receiving anything.

Answer 2

Oh, bro, I'm with ya. I've had this same problem ever since I had to break up with the love of my life because I didn't want to catch herpes. The main thing is - DON'T get them, it's hard enough to get a good girl when everything is perfect with you!

OK, do this. Tell them you had a really important person in your life that had herpes, and you had to give up that relationship because of it. Then say "Do you have herpes?" (that's not the genius part). She might say 'no', rationalizing that she doesn't have it active at the moment. THEN ask "Have you EVER had herpes?" She probably won't lie twice.

You can catch herpes even when there are no active lesions- it is called asymptomatic shedding. Why do you think so many people have it? If people could see it, of course they are not gonna go ahead and kiss!

joyo75's stats are complete bulllshit. When she says 99% of the world has oral herpes, what she means is that 100% of joyo75 has oral herpes, and she wants you to think it's normal, unavoidable, even desirable.

1 in 5 males have herpes simplex 1 or 2, 1 in 4 females have it, and 1 in 2 black females or females with at least one hispanic parent have herpes. If you think I'm making these statistics up, I got them from Dr. Dean Edell at healthcentral.com.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

It most likely is. A huge number of people have herpes simplex virus (I forget now if it's I or II) that causes cold sores. And it's not always an STD. Some people are born with it, or catch it as children. Very common, and very normal.

If you just have to know, wait till you see a sore and ask her how long she's had cold sores. There's no shame in it, and it could very well be some other condition as well. :)

Answer 5

a lot of people have oral herpes. a small percentage of those people when they are having an outbreak can transfer it and could become genital herpes. the chance is so infinitesimally small though. genital herpes is another thing. you can get genital herpes even if they are not visible. if you are serious about this girl you are probably going to have to learn how to talk about tough stuff at some point. it's not uncommon for people who are becoming sexual with each other to get tested or talk about their sexual history. dont be afraid to ask!!! you could really really regret it later!

Answer 6

If she has oral herpes you'll see an outbreak sooner or later. If you're just interested at this point, there may be no need to know about STDs yet. Just be honest. Tell her your fear of disease. She has the right to be insulted but you have the right to be informed.

Answer 7

How close are you? Have you ever had a cold sore? Its the same thing. Avoid kissing and skin contact with her while blisters are present. The virus can spread easily as long as there are moist secretions from her blisters. It will be hard to avoid it no matter who you select to be your love interest. In North America alone, 293,655,4051 people are infected with the Herpes Simplex Virus - the virus that causes cold sores. There is no cure but there are several medications (valtrex, acyclavor) that can be prescribe to minimize outbreak and to reduce healing time. If you really like her, I would not let this get in the way. Avoid kissing and skin contact with her while blisters are present. The virus can spread easily as long as there are moist secretions from her blisters.

Answer 8

Oral herpes is very common. You can only catch it on your gentials if you have oral sex with a breakout.But to play it safe during oral sex with ANYONE use a condom or dental dam. I would just ask her if she has cold sores. If you two get serious i reccomend going and getting tested together. That way you both know you are clean and you can enjoy your sex life!

Answer 9

First, I would like to know if you are planning on having a sexual relationship with her. If you are then tell her that you are very safety conscious and would like to know if she has any type of sexually transmitted diseases. Also, tell her that you don't have any diseases. That way, she doesn't think you are accusing her of having something. The best thing is to be very open and honest. You only have one life, so don't be afraid to ask.

Answer 10

I always offer up my last STD test to a new lover and ask to see thiers in return. I find that showing them mine first helps them not to feel as if I don't trust them, but that it's just something I do to keep myself safe.

Answer 11

Ask her. If she has herpes and she is honest, she will tell you; if she is dishonest and she say no, ask her to get a test when you see breatkout.