I have just got back with my ex boyfriend and recently notice spots "down below" I am going to get checked out but if i do have an STI how can i tell him and not have him split up with me??
2006-12-10 22:20:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
I hope it wasn't something you contracted from him in the past that is only showing symptoms now. That's possible, in which case, he should understand. Make sure he hasn't got any STI as well. I guess you can hint towards something like that and see his reaction before telling him
2006-12-10 22:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "just" got back with him, who to say that he didn't give it to you. Regardless, say Nothing, until you find out for sure. Now listen to me, stop having unprotected sex! Do you know that HIV?AIDS are rising so fast in North America, that by the end of this decade, we may be no better off then Africa! 4 young people an hour, in the US contract the HIV/AIDS virus and that is 24/7. Did you also know, that 25% of men, don't even know they have it! Now get to the doctor, and have ALL the tests done. Remember, the only SAFE SEX is NO SEX until your married. Want to live to see your grandchildren, believe everything I have just told you. Now once you find out, if you do, or don't, talk to your boyfriend and get him tested, and if you two are serious about each other, and want to make a lifetime commitment, stay with only each other from now on. Good Girl, now follow my advise.
2006-12-10 22:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about a Sexually Transmitted Infection???
If its a "yeast infection", then its not "sexually trasnsmitted", its probably you douched too much.
If its Sexually Transmitted Irritation, it means your not "properly lubed" enough and you need either more foreplay or some type of lubricant so that you wont be irritated and redness or soreness wont develope.
If you meant STD, or Sexually Transmitted Disease, and it wasnt from him, you may not keep him... (A person usally doesnt want to fool around with some one who is "infected" because sypliss, ghonoreah and all that is "for life"! Sure, you can "arrest" it, but, it stays with you for life, in your body).
If you have herpes, he may get it, even if you show no symptoms, so you had BETTER tell him, or he may be tramautised from getting it, and hate you for life!!!
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-12-10 22:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not all infections in the genitals are caused through sexual contact. it could be thrush. wait till you get results before telling him anything, but try to use condoms or abstain until you do. the clinic will have a health adviser to help you tell your partner if need be. good luck. plus, if you both had other partners while you were apart, the root of the problem could be him.
2006-12-11 20:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. There will be bigger problems if you aren't.
Do you shave down there? What are the chances that it's razor burn? Don't freak out until the doc tells you that you have something, as weird lumps and bumps pop up randomly in most people's lifetimes, okay?
2006-12-10 22:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got the spots after sleeping with him then he has proberly given you the STI, so he should of told you.
2006-12-10 22:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 06:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier said than done, I understand... But really, living with him not knowing, that must be even harder. So I suppose, do tell him, and whether or not he can take it, it's up to him. I hope he will, but if he doesn't that means that you have to move on, but know that you have done a good thing.
2006-12-11 01:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by za^za 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he cares and values your relationship, considers your relationship open and honest...i don't see any reason why you can't openly discuss the situation of your STI....especially if you are having sex with him. it concerns him as well...if you are to have a long term relationship that envolves trusting each other.
2006-12-11 04:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by shamrockshake 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just have to tell him - this is not something that you can leave as a secret because you could be affecting his health. if you are meant to be together than he will understand. get yourself checked out asap though because you may be worrying about nothing.
2006-12-10 22:23:39 · answer #10 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋