I'm 13 and I've been having sex with, belive it or not, my MALE cousin, i first had sex like one year ago, with him, and i've been doing it ever since. This year, i think i've had sex with him for atleast 8 times. So, I've been seeing on T.V. all of these commercials about HIV and AIDS and everything eles, but everytime one of those things pop up, i just change the channel, because i don't like to think that I could have an STD or HIV or AIDS. Well, I don't know if I should tell my parents because, well, 1) they will be shocked when they know i've lost my virginity at age 13, 2) that I'm bisexual, and 3) that Icould have HIV. What should I do??? Well, i don't want to stop having sex because it's a great feeling, and I can't buy condoms because my parents would find out! so, what do you guys suggest?
2006-12-02 17:17:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
If your not using condoms, your going to suffer the consequences if you continue to have unprotected sex. Either stop having sex or you start using condoms.
It would be better if you tell your parents, now rather than later, especially if you contract a sexually transmitted disease.
Some STD's will take your life, or you could end up with a life long condition.
Think about your future, and what you want to achieve?
Why not talk to your local Youth centre, they may give you further information about the consequences of unprotected sex. They may also give some condoms.
As for having sex with your cousin, you need to seek help. I might add if he is older than you he could be charged for rape, have you thought of that.
DO HAVE A TEST AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!
2006-12-02 17:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by spiderlady632003 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think it woudl make sense to get tested. You've only had one partner, it sounds like, so that is in your favor. The fewer partners you've had, the less your likelihood of getting a STD are. But its still possible. One thing you should probably do is ask your cousin if he knows his status, or if he's had any other partners.
If you are bisexual, then sooner or later you will have to tell your parents this. But since you're only 13, you're right...they might be quite shocked. Frankly, I think 13 is much too young to be having any type of sex at all (heterosexual or homosexual). 13 year olds are supposed to just be kids. Why dont you slow down a little bit and put off the sex for a few years.
If you really like this boy, there are other things you two can do together that are less risky, such as kissing, cuddling, and blowjobs (although blowjobs also carry a risk of transmitting STDs so be careful).
Also...another thing is that your cousin is probably not the best person to have sex with, as you are related.
2006-12-02 19:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by cambridgebrian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I think 13 *is* a bit young to be having sex, you're doing the right thing by asking the questions.
Yes, you should get tested for HIV. If you're in the United States, call the county's Department of Health and ask them about HIV testing. They'll probably be very happy to help you. They can probably also provide you with free condoms.
Secondly, don't worry too much about having sex with your cousin. Two closely related males having sex is not, in any way, harmful. LOTS of males have done it and nothing "bad" has happened. It's just that family members spend a lot of time with each other in some intimate settings so this sort of thing is going to happen.
HOWEVER, if your cousin is over 18 then he *can* get in bad legal trouble. It's called "Statutory Rape" and, yes, it does apply to male-to-male relationships.
2006-12-03 09:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by BubbaB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get tested and you also need to think about safe sex no matter who or what you are having sex with. HIV and AIDS is deadly and not something to be playing around with at age 13. It is time you start thinking with your head and not with your penis. If you don't start thinking with your head you will wind up catching a nasty disease that might kill you. You have your whole life ahead of you so start being smart. Stick to something like masturbation if you feel you must get some sexual relief or at least get a hold of some condoms.
2006-12-02 17:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Stop having sex with your cousin. I know nothing about your cousin but neither technically do you.
Play it safe and just cover your bases. Protect yourself. Get condoms. Ask friends if necessary to get them for you.
Everyone likes sex...but be safe. And choose a partner that isn't your relative. This is emotionally unhealthy. Even if your find the sex " a great feeling"
Be smart.
2006-12-02 17:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call a sex hot- line in your area. You can talk to a professional with out giving out your name. You probably don't have HIV unless your cousin has had allot of sex with other people. You can find a sex or gay hot-line in your phone book. What you are doing isn't that bad but I wouldn't tell your parents until you talk to the hot line.
2006-12-02 17:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Roberto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all never hesitate to get tested for any std. there are ways around your parents finding out and if God forbid you do have one most testing places have councilors who can be a mediator for you and your parents. secondly you should not be having sex with your cousin...incest is against the law where I live maybe you should talk to a professional about why you haven't sought sex outside of your family.
2006-12-02 17:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by crickle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OOOKKKAYYY, not being judgmental because what u do is what u do, but y your cousin? Anyways what would u rather, your parents catching u using condoms, or to find out that u got AIDS or an STD from ur cousin? I'm going to let u decide, either way they will probably find out just be careful.
2006-12-02 17:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by lady diva 2002 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
GET THE TEST!!!!!! you could save yours and who knows how many other people just by taking that test! and tell your parents. you should let them know before they find out, or else it will be a whole lot worse. and after you go and tell your parents get condoms and use them until you take the test, and still use them afterwards. think about it, would you rather die of a blood disease, or get grounded for a long time?
2006-12-02 17:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by bobisawsum 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, tell your parents, call 911 and report that you have been fu@king a pervert cousin at age 13. That's sick
Back to the point.
If your pervert cousin is a street gay... yea... then get tested. He might be fuc@king 20 other jingolos (men whores) down in those honky-tonk whore houses. Get tested and for your own safety, stay away from unprotected sex.
Good luck and fu@ck off from a cousin.
Shame!
2006-12-03 10:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by greggy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋