What are the reasons for a missed miscarriage. Why does it happen? Are hormones to blame, I was breast feeding my 6 month old child. I am very hurt that this little 5cm or mm embryo could have been a bouncing child to play with my other child... please help.
2006-12-01 22:37:37 · 18 answers · asked by tressa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm sorry for you hunni, its one of life's mystery's and theres no real reason for it
love and best wishes, i know how your feeling at the moment as i have been through it
xxxxx
2006-12-01 22:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, miscarriages are fairly common. On average, one in five pregnancies will end in a miscarriage - and some research shows that there are up to 800,000 miscarriages a year in the United States.
In most cases, a miscarriage cannot be prevented because it is the result of a random genetic or chromosomal change that occurs during conception or during early fetal development. That said, certain factors - such as age, smoking, drinking, and a history of miscarriage - put a woman at a higher risk for losing a pregnancy. But you can do many things to increase the chances that you and your baby will be healthy throughout the pregnancy.
A miscarriage is the spontaneous abortion of an embryo or fetus before it's developed enough to survive. This can happen even before a woman is aware that she is pregnant.
A miscarriage usually occurs in the first 3 months of pregnancy, before 20 weeks' gestation. A small fraction of miscarriages - less than 1% of them - are called stillbirths, as they occur after 20 weeks of gestation.
2006-12-02 02:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A miscarriage could happen to any woman.
At least, you already have a child, could you imagine how you would feel if this miscarriage is your first child and you have to wait for a long time for you to get pregnant again. (Or this child was born but only to die after a week?)
I had a miscarriage 10 weeks on the way. I did not feel bitter though my lady boss feels a little bit guilty but I did not blame anyone. Because at least I know I am capable of getting pregnant. Yes, that child would have been a teenager now, yeah right - if that is exciting, I am not eager, as I don't know yet how I will cope with the kid's mentality nowadays.
There is always a reason why things happen but if you think it through, it will always be for your benefit. Do you really think you could cope dealing with 2 little children screaming at you? This is sometimes the reason why mothers always shout, they are so stressed inside and they can't rest from all the caring they have to provide to their children and partner. I only have one child born 5 years after my miscarriage and even though this is the case, I can't imagine having another as I am 41, but I make sure that my child gets lots of love, and most importantly discipline. The result, my little one is loved by teachers, winning competitions and doing very well in school in all subjects, jamming with us using a recorder or violin. Most importantly, at a tender age, my child knows how to trust in the Lord Jesus Christ and have a good spiritual relationship with God and parents. Stop wondering why things happen and start accepting it and make the best of what you have. You won't find nice surprises elsewhere if you stay in one room. Take care of your spouse, yourself and stop thinking of playmates for your little one. You & your partner are the playmates - bond with your child, enjoy each others company without spoiling your child. Treat each day as a "treat" from God. Have a nice day! -- Anz
2006-12-01 23:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anz 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I have had to miscarriages at 12 and 10 weeks. It is so upsetting.
I know that this probably won't console you but the miscarriage wasn't your fault. Most miscarriages are caused by genetic abnormalities in the newly created baby. If you are breastfeeding a six month old then the chances are that your eggs are not mature enough to carry a pregnancy to term. Women who breastfeed have a slower return to fertility.
I wish more women would realise the gift and value of the unborn child.
2006-12-03 19:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by MrsC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you - sometimes its harder to get your head round the fact that nothing came away itself. I had a missed miscarriage 9 years ago. I was 13weeks pregnant and my baby had died at 10weeks gestation - it stays with you. Grieve if you can - no one can give you an explanation its just something over which we have no control. I have had three beautiful children since then but I still wonder 'what if' sometimes. The hurt does lessen but time is the only healer - concentrate on your little one just now and enjoy every moment of their babyhood - it doesn't last long. All the best x
2006-12-01 23:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by StephE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all so confusing and something that we will never know. You will drive yourself mad trying to work out why.. I believe the way I got over my miscarriage is by believing that there was something wrong with my baby and it wasn't well or strong enough to survive. Better to pass in peace than live in pain.
Your emotions will still be running high as you have a 6month old, concentrate on the child you have. There will be plenty of time for you to make a little brother or sister for them.
Sorry, chin up and Good luck xx
2006-12-02 22:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by SARAH S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am soooo sorry for your loss. I have had 2 miscarriages and have 3 children. There are so many reasons why you may have miscarried, none being your fault. I see it as God taking care of a baby that may not have been ready to survive in this world. That your little angel is looking after you and your 6 month old.
2006-12-02 03:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm SO sorry for your lose, there is nothing you did or could have done to cause this. As sad as it is... a miscariage is very common... but it doesn't make it easy.
I've experienced two miscarriages and I found each one very hard to get over. I didn't seem to feel any closure till after the little ones due dates past. Everyone grieves in their own way... take the time you need to get over this and know there is LOTS of support for you and your family. Whether it's local, family, friends, or strangers over the net.
Hope you're feeling better soon again I'm sorry for your loss
I just wanted to add a poem that I came across when I was looking for support w/ my miscarriages online. It helped me and I would like to share it .
Just Those Few Weeks
For just those few weeks-I had you all to myself, and that seems too short a time to be changed SO profoundly!
In just those few weeks - I came to know you...and to love you! You came to trust me with your life..Oh! What a life I had planned for you!
Just those few weeks - when I lost you, I lost a lifetime of hopes, plans, dreams, and aspirations...a slice of my future simply vanished overnight.
Just those few weeks - it wasn't enough time to convince others how special and important you were! How odd, a truly unique person has recently died, and no one is mourning the passing.
Just a mere few weeks - and no "Normal" person would cry all night over a tiny, unfinished Baby, or get depressed and withdrawn day after endless day....no else would, so WHY am I???
In just those few weeks, you were my Little One! You darted in and out of life FAR too quickly! But it seems that's all the time you needed to make my life SO much richer, and to give me a small glimpse of eternity!
Just those few weeks....I will cherish my entire lifetime!
2006-12-02 01:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by second time around 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the second answer, if it helps any. My mum had to go through three miscarriages before she had me. I also had a boss once who went through two or more (lost contact with her before I bumped into her and her 2-year-old daughter a few years after I quit) and it was all because of stress at work. From what you said about your 6-month-old, I don't think it's stress from work since you're on maternity leave, but maybe there's some other stressful situation you're going through in your life?
2006-12-01 22:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing..
It is an awful thing to happen but they say that miscarriages happen because it may have been harmful for the baby if the pregnancy had continued.
You'll find that you will be pregnant again before you know it.
Please do not blame yourself it was no ones fault
2006-12-02 22:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for your pain. It 'just happens' sometimes. I began to grieve less for my three miscarried children after the birth of my disabled daughter - who is a lovely little human being, by the way - but I began to realise that it is nature's way of not bringing to full term some of those chldren who may be profoundly disabled. It is hard work caring for a disabled child no matter how much you love him ot her.
2006-12-02 00:49:29 · answer #11 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋