hitting your children with a wooden spoon?

Question

parent believe they can get through to their children when their naughty by hitting them with a wooden spoon.
i feel that any sort of hitting is wrong .. but parents believe its the right thing to do if their child misbehaves.
what do you think?
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Answer 1

Nah... Just go with a traditional spanking. It works, especially if you get your hand watery... That really stings. They'll learn not to do it anymore.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I have noticed the more "Disapline" the worse the child becomes.

Experience helps children learn better then just makeing them mad at you, definent and secretive.

But this is what I have obversed exactly,.. the more disapline the worse the child became as an adult,... there is this belief in those children at some point in adolences or adulthood that applying more disapline to their OWN children will make them better then them. So there is also a cycle of Violence. No lesson is learned out of all of this. Those with the greatest violence/disapline and Relgious structure just seem to go beat someone into a hospital or shoot someone,.. go to their religious place, get forgiveness,.. and go out to break laws the same day. It's very annoying but I am more observent then other people.

Added: As for the question that this is labled. My mom hit me with a Wooden spoon,.. because her mom hit her with a wooden spoon,.. because her mom hit her with a wooden spoon,... etc. It's not really healthy. It is a cooking utensil (knives are for cooking too). Wood does not clean as well as other things (that is why wood is used in cooking some times to absorb and spread things) so it can have bacteria. So people get something with splinters. They can whine and take out their splinters but they ignore the child if they complain because they assume they are trying to get attention. Then you have one, two sick people,.. maybe the whole household because of all the Spoon goes through. Some families end up playing hide and seek with the spoon and then it gets used in cooking. No,.. the spoon is not "healthy". If you hit your child with a spoon it's also like hitting a grown man with a bat,.. you don't know how much your putting out.

Answer 4

Yes. It's really abusive to hit a child with any sort of object, but I've heard that wooden spoons are the worst and the most likely to cause bruising. Don't smack a child with anything but an open hand!

Answer 5

Its a personal choice. My mom used to hit me with a wooden spoon and broke many of them. I turned out well. As a teacher and can say this much there needs to be better parenting. I as a parent do not hit my kids and I have raised them well. Some parents dont have good skills and feel the need to rule by fear. That is the choice rule by fear or rule by love?

Answer 6

I was it often with a wooden spoon. I now have tramatic stress disorder and I go to therapy once a week. What in the world could a little child do to deserve such a punishment.

Answer 7

I don't know about hitting them with a wooden spoon, that's more like abuse. But i do believe in physical discipline, just spanking on the but. I'm not for hitting my son just wherever handy or just because of something minor. If he runs away from me I might smack him on his but and then lecture him for doing such a dangerous thing. Sometimes that's just the Last resort.

Answer 8

i think under no circumstance should a child ever be hit by any object, i have a 2 and a half year old daughter and yes she might get a little tap on the hand by my hand...but never have i ever imagined nor would i in using any sort of object to hit such a precious gift, i think its a case of each to their own. but in my opinion i agree with you things such as wooden spoons should be left in the kitchen and used for cooking not abusing little children.

Answer 9

If you want to use a wooden spoon for spanking, I say go for it. I have cousins who were spanked with a wooden spoon all the time, and they all grew up to be perfectly stable and well adjusted.

However do watch out for the child's little fingers when they go to protect their little bottoms, for a wooden spoon can break their little fingers.

Answer 10

We personally don't, I use only my hand, but we do use a old fashioned style of spanking, meaning pants down, and over the lap, for what I call a "spank-ing" not just a swat, or spank. The outcome of giving spankings is that I wind up doing less of them in the long run. As to the wooden spoon - I think as long as a parent doesn't go overboard and leave bruises, it's just fine. Everyone has their own methods of consequences, If they work and their not abusive then more power to you.

Answer 11

I dont think im being treated unfair most of time but i am 12 and my mother sometime use the wooden spoon to spank me if ive done something wrong or the ping pong paddle. I dont like it but its to help remind me of what i did wrong.