he does not know i love him and i dont have the courage to tell him.i have tried to forget him but just cant stop thinking about him
2006-12-01 21:57:44 · 11 answers · asked by dont_kknow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no recipe for stoping to love someone.
In my humble opinion you should try to overcome your fears and tell him, if you don't you will always second guess yourself and wonder "what if I had...", who knows, maybe it would have worked out between you two and you might miss out on something wonderful.
I know, you're risking being badly hurt (if he doesn't love you) but if you keep this secret and still hang out with you you'll still be hurtinig yourself anyway, imagine when he's in love with someone else and you watching it, feeling like dying...
If you really don't or can't tell him, and want to try stop loving him, maybe getting away from him for a while and meeting other people, I know from experience that when you least search and least expect BOOM you feel something for someone else.
Loving someone else will help (but sometimes we love someone forever, the love changes but that part of our heart will always belong to him / her...)
Love heals and time does too, time will help you, but not if you stick around this person and lets the wounds being open again and again...
Good luck and hang in there
2006-12-01 22:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lakini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you really love someone that can never be un done and the best thing would be for you to either tell him how you feel or let it go and keep suffering until you don't suffer anymore.... There is no other option left, get some courage and if you just can't then write your feelings to him in a letter...
2006-12-01 22:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The more you try to stop loving him, the more you fall deeper.
The only way to stop loving someone is to fall in love with someone else... even then, you may still love the first person if only less. But it sounds like you should not necessarily give him up yet. You have not given any evidence that he does not love you in return or why he may not.
Maybe your question should be, what should you do...
2006-12-01 22:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. the best thing to do is to tell him that you like him. write him a letter or tell him personally if you are more daring. or if you have the time and persistence.. do some courtship.. lol.. more subtly like body language and sweet talking to see how he response (subtly is the best way).
after telling him... if he likes you back. that's good. (see.. you can thank yourself for putting urself out of the comfort zone!)
hehe. well... if he doesn't feel the same way... NOw you can have the option of moving on. tell yourself that if you truely love him for him.... you gonna have to respect his wishes (to make him happy) since u are not the one to make him happy... just be friends.
remind yourself that there's always other fishes in the sea. for me... it took me really long to get over my best friend. i really love him at that time... and i thought without him my world seems bleak . But as time passes by.. and i meet new people... i'm starting to see that the world is much bigger and more potential to find someone who truely loves me for me.
at least give him a try before moving on. goodluck!
2006-12-01 22:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to stop loving him. Just find someone else to love. You can love more than one person. Just stick him in your pleasant memories brain compartment to be pulled out in time of need and move on.
Or you could tell him that you love him and either he will respond favorably at least for a few rounds in bed or he will say sorry, not interested. Either way you get it out of your system and move on to your next love.
2006-12-01 22:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't know about your feeling then i don't see how that should be difficult . It would havae been different if you two had dated before. How do you know it is real love and not just some crush . Just find other things of interest, hang out with other people and may be you will find true love then.
2006-12-01 22:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by lolalinda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love him, you should tell him your feelings right now, because even though he seems neutral outwardly, he might actually really like you as well. i'm stuck in the same position... i was kinda neutral to a girl i actually really liked and now she is ignoring me. you have nothing to lose here so do it , asap, the sooner the better.
2006-12-01 22:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you only live once so go see the great & powerful OZ & have him give you the courage you need. Maybe it will be the best thing you've ever done
2006-12-01 22:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read up on ifaturation, that will help you understand that its just a mating response that won't happen. "the anatomy of love" is a good book i had stolen....it'll give you the picture.
2006-12-01 22:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by b-overit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how do you know this person ? do you have often contacts with him ?
does he know you ?
is he free ?
perhaps you are infatuated with him ?
is there any way for you to get to know him better ? does he know you even exist ?
you are not very clear on this person .......
if i were infatuated ? i would try my best to approach him some , in order to know more about him .perhaps in knowing this person ? your infatuation will lessen ?
good luck ..........love yourself ))
2006-12-01 22:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by HJW 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋