I feel in love with a girl last year and she had to leave the country, I followed her for a month and stayed with her then came back, for the next few months it was rough I missed her so much I could not concertrate and lost my job and was so depressed that I tried to commiet sucide, cause I heard she was with someone els and everytime I spoke to her she told me it was gossip and not to listen to wat people are saying, well then I moved back to her for the summer and everyting was nice, but she told me that she was kissing another guy but it was a mistake and it was just a fling ,I forgave her for that, now she just told me that she has another guy and doesnt feel the same for me, but she really wants me to be around cause she can talk to me about anything ? now I have moved half way across the world to be with her and now i cant go back home, what do I do ? Stay and feel hurt and hopefully I get over her ? or pack up and leave ?
2006-12-01 21:49:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I must admit that I was at fault here as well I have done stuff I shouldnt have done like im a very jealusy guy and soft hearted she can get here way all the time but I have snaped at her and said things that I shouldnt have said, so she told me its all this things that have lead her to feeling this way, we knw each other for more then 5 years and were very good friends and she never did anything to hurt anyone, I really love her and she said if I changed my ways she will come back, I dont know wat to do this to myself, she says she has another guy she likes but shes not to into him, she give me wired signals all the time leaving me mesgs saying our love will be forever and I should not worry about anything els, Im so confused
2006-12-01 22:54:56 · update #1
Hmm...this is actually common in the womens society.
Scared to be alone-scared to be lonely.
Though easily we women can get someone new(if we're that type), still theres this one person we women want waiting in the side.A comfort zone. A safety airbag.Now ur her airbag,get it?
Guys who experience this (which i think once in your lives ud actually feel) normally really truly madly deeply with the whole of his life loves the girl so so much.(You know ud feel that one true love once in your lifetime)
Now is ur time dear.Sad to say.
As for what you should do.If ure strong. Ud have to let her go.
Leave. Shes not good for you.at least not now,not yet. She wants u there just to fill her empty time when "the other guy" isnt around and believe me she'd do it time and time again.
Get a new job somewhere u wont remind u of her.Do different things,different interest,different hobbies.
Stop listening to sad songs-dont pamper your pain.Instead listen to upbeat(not ballads esp my immortal or without u-NEVER)songs..it really really does help.though u crave to hear sad sad songs but its time to stop.
When u leave,u really leave.. dont call her.dont asnwer her calls.Dont wait for her.Maybe to stay in contact send those forwarded emails to her together with many other people.U need to buck up b strong....ok?
ive been true this and many others too.but somehow u gotta get through with it.Maybe in time(a long long more than 5 years time) ud meet her up and things would b more mature by then.
Good luck dude
2006-12-01 22:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by kim_stolz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back home.
She has grown apart from you and that won't change.
If you can't go back home, then what options do you have where you are now? Can you get a really good job? Can you make new friends? Give it a bit of a go while you are still there. If you get nowhere in at least 6 - but max of 12 - months, then just pack your things and go back home.
2006-12-02 06:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you in a country that you can stay on a long statut? why do you say you cannot go home ?
first of all , this girl is lacking respect for you in more ways than you may realize ! you must leave this person for all you are going to do is :suffer
pack up and leave ? where can you go to be away from her ?
try to find a job if you are allowed to work in the country that you are in ? and especially away from her
she does not love you , i am sorry that it turned out this way ((
2006-12-02 06:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by HJW 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears from what you have stated that you are a person of good heart but sentimentally weak and she knows that.This is a kind of exploitation.If she is did not attach as much importance as you did to her, you ought to have adjusted internally to the situation.You did your best and if she did not turn out to be of your type then there was no need to keep running after her. Return to your native place. You will find a plenty of opportunity to find some one who resonates with your spirit. Don't attach too much of importance to a friendship of this kind which is unilateral or skewed.Increase your own estimation of yourself.
2006-12-02 06:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a general rule with few exceptions, when you have to ask yourself, should i stay or leave, the answer is leave. And I think this is a majority situation. Pack up dude. Sorry.
2006-12-02 05:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up and leave her sorry a s s!!!!! you'll feel better in the end if you leave and worse if you decide to stay... At this point you need to just love yourself and respect your person enough to not let her just get away with that and be ok with that because you love her... She does not love you...
2006-12-02 05:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't go back home, you have no choice but to stay, right?
If you want to leave, figure out a way to leave even if it take a little while to save money or whatever.
2006-12-02 05:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by leave me alone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...she only wants you around in case the other man doesn't work out. Tell her to kiss your *** and go find someone that will care something about you.
2006-12-02 05:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and get your own life!!!
You lose your job, move halfway across the world for her, she cheats on you and then expects you to stay so she has someone to talk to? You've got to be kidding!!
2006-12-02 05:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some control of your life fella, make a decision and stick to it. Sounds like you need psychological help. dont be a doormat
2006-12-02 05:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋