I need the opinion of people more experienced with relationships?

Question

I'm 19 years old, i've only recently become more active in love, but here's the situation.

There's a girl i really like and we met up twice before a party yesterday and on both times she was really nice and talked a lot with me, but then on the party yesterday, i felt she was ignoring me and avoiding me and kept giving attention to another guy, i mean she even let him drive her home. My friend said she was trying to make me really want her but i'm not so sure. There's this girl who i used to like who is contacting me again recently, she was at the party but felt like i was ignoring her and i felt bad for it and decided to make up for it by asking her out for lunch without thinking which she gladly agreed to. Now i'm stuck in a divide to either choose the one i like and continue courting her or to drop her and go for the one who likes me... I have a week to decide on something. Put yourself in my place... what would you do? Please help, i'm really messed up about this right now.

Answer 1

choose the one whom you think a relationship could last.

if you choose the one you like and is not sure if she likes you, you could end up with a broken heart. but there is a chance that she likes you as well so that is a risk you have to take.

if you choose the one who likes you, you could end up hurting her if you realize that you do not really like her.

Be friends to both of them and pick the one whom you think will complete you as a man.

Answer 2

If clearly understood your question you are in a double situation.
OK. Girl 1(the one is ignoring you); It might be true she is trying to get your extra attention and at the same time she may be attracted to this other guy. From your explanation you two just meet twice and talked , it wasn't like you two had a date before. This means you are still in the friend zone. So inother words she is well within her rights to talk to some other guy, u know. It is crazy but you also ignored girl two, then invited her out for lunch ,(was it some sign of pity?). The question who do you want to be with? Who do you feel connected to? Who makes you feel comfortable? WHo will respect you and treat you right. Who will be there for you when you are down.? I cannot say date girl1 or ignore girl2, this is a choice you will have to make on your own. But i will say go for the one you will like to see in the morning when you wake up.

Answer 3

I am a good bit older than you so let me tell you something from experience. Go with the 1 that likes you. The girl that left with another guy doesn't like you like you think she does. She is showing you that. Most of the time when girls do that they are trying to get you to run after them just to see how far you will go before they tell you to get lost. The 1 that really likes you is the one you should give a chance to. She has already shown you she is interested. Forget about the other one that left with someone else. She doesn't respect you' She is only going to hurt you.

Answer 4

Are you trying to decide the girl of your life at this age?Heck, come on!! You have a week to decide to on something eh? Well, if i were you, i'd just go out with that girl for lunch or dinner or anything. At the same time, i will just be in touch with the other girl, be friends with her and see where it may lead to!! We can can never tell which one of the girls is gonna make you happy! Its not wrong for you to be friends with both and go out with them and from then on, you will realise who treats you better and who's gonna make a better partner! I'm not encouraging you to be a "player" though! You can go out with many people as you like but just remember when it comes to the crunch of choosing the one, ask yourself who has the right chemistry with you and you decide where to go from there.

Answer 5

Give your heart some room to grow and give the one thatlikes you the chance as well. The other has her eye on both you and the other guy but he is first on the list. There may be another time for the other lady just not now. Have some fun ladies hate the fact that guys go deep so fast, keep it light learn to dance and enjoy. The other lady may see you leaving and try to keep you close, we like to keep our Fans close!

Answer 6

Man, that's rough. I've been there. I went with the girl that liked me. We went strong for two years, and then she dumped me. Through our relationship, I wondered if things would have been way better with the other girl. Now I kind of wish I had gone after the other one. Now it's too late. I'd say if you're way into the one girl, go after her. Don't be lazy, put in the work that's due and get her or you'll always wonder what could've been but wasn't.

Answer 7

If you are not really into the second girl, you should be honest and break it off regardless of how the first girl feels. Let the second girl down easy and then just ask the first girl out. Maybe she was ignoring you because she was tired of waiting around for you to make a move...

Answer 8

go for the one who likes you. but don't be too intimate. and within a week or two you'll also understand if the one you like, likes you too. If she does, she'll absoulety get jealous and do smth. If she does not, you will be provied from any risk of pain. Besides you'll have the chance to know the girl who likes you.....

Answer 9

Well I suggest you better think over which lady can have a long lasting relationship with you is the choice of yours.

Answer 10

This can be a difficult thing. Personally I would go for the one that I liked. It would be easy to take the one that likes you but would that be fair to her? Also it is not fair to you. Go for what you want, be bold and see were it takes you. Settling does sound like much fun to me.