my best guy friend told me to have sex wit him in email and my boyfriend checked my email and saw it and now he wants 2 beat him up and when i said he better not he turned around and grabed me and yelled why do u want to sleep with him u damn hoe and when i said no he said he wanted to have sex and when i said no the cycle repated so how do i tell my guy friend no and what should i do with my boyfriend?help
2006-12-01 21:08:12 · 15 answers · asked by here to help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
man you are messed up, if your boyfriend ever lays a finger on your, then split, you never deserve that no matter what happened.
2006-12-01 21:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by yo 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if at all you do love your guy, then there is nothing to discuss when it comes to this `guy friend`. Cut off his friendship as it is based on nothing less than opportunism. Your guy will go on yelling at you and swearing all evil if you do not let your `guy friend` to go and this will only end up terminating your relationship, now you do not want that, do you? You MUST have limits when it comes to your friends and their effects on your relationship. I mean,for this `guy friend` to go to an extent of asking you to have sex with him the two of you must have gotten really close, which is very wrong. There should be no question on how to tell your `guy friend` no, it`s a straight no! open and shut case. Now, you must realise that your boyfriend loves you so much and would do anything to ensure that your relationship works out, even ripping a guy like that apart. That is why he is reacting this way. Here`s what you will do, tell that `guy friend` of yours a big NO as he will only serve to make things hard for you. Then you must confess to your boyfriend from the bowel of your heart if at all you love him and promise him that nothing like that will ever happen again. Good luck girl.
2006-12-01 21:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your best friend to stop going beyond friendships with you. Don;t allow the incident to happen again.
Admit that it is your fault for not being too discreet and for being a cheater at one degree. Its unfair to your boyfriend. you can;t blame him for being that way to you.
Just learn from the mistake and be serious with your man, not your best friend.
If you like your best friend, better break up with your boyfriend and don't mess 2 persons lives.
2006-12-01 21:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair of him to get physical and verbally abusive, regardless - even if you were cheating! Find someone else. As for the friend, you might have to let him go, too if you don't plan on pursuing a relationship with him. You don't want to hurt him.
2006-12-01 21:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave yr boyfriend. Once he puts a finger on you- that's it- it over! NO MATTER WHAT YOU DID< OR SOMEBODY ELSE SENT YOU_ YOU DON"T DESERVE THAT TREATMENT> YOU ARE YR OWN PERSON> Tell you b/f that this guy EMailed you,, nothing happened, but leave him anyway. You'll be more relieved not to have that hanging over yr head.
2006-12-01 21:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your best friend that you truely love your boyfriend and as your bestest guy friend, he should seriously respect your wishes and be happy for you and your boyfriend. and presumming u and ur boyfriend don't want anything like ***** buddies esp when in a relationship.
your bf has the right to be jealous. if your bf's bestest girl friend decided that she wants to sleep with him, you are gonna roar like a lionness too right! like.... "wait a minute! he's MINE!"
ok. just tell your best friend that you love ur bf and you guys don't do one night stands.. and if he's ur best friend... he'd respect you. but if he forces it or anything... that's just wrong and maybe (reality check) he's not really your friend after all.
2006-12-01 21:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has the rite to be mad, he shouldn't hav read the email, but since he did, he has no choice to be angry, its normal. IT was wrong for him to come to u and grab u, but from wat u wrote, he didn't 'beat' u. It was wrong for him to call u a ho, but it was emotional for him to find out that u could be sleepin wid other people, U hav to see it from his point of view too. If u really don't want to hav sex with ur friend, then jus tell him wat u wanna be friends, nothing more, and tell ur boyfriend that if he touches u again, or treats u like that again, then dump his sorry ***. WOOT WOOT!!!
2006-12-01 21:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by The Gildclam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the boyfriend.
2006-12-01 21:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:O You should realize that you deserve to be treated better than that! Don't ever let a guy put his ******* hands on you! I don't care what email he found. Dump him. Or you are a dumbass
2006-12-01 21:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by RockabillyBanana 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you want sex with your guy friend??I say go for it.Your boyfriend over reacted now he has to pay.
2006-12-01 21:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by blackbolt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋