You'll hear it all the time..... he's so controlling, I hate him, he's so mean to me.... and they stay with the guy! Why? This applies to both sexes, just substitute the pronoun.
2006-12-01 20:43:23 · 11 answers · asked by RockabillyBanana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even though some get treated like crap, they still have some connection with that person, or they have history. Some are scared to leave. Afterall if they left the one being mean would get a whole lot meaner. Sometimes they just don't see what is happening like an outside person would. I've seen this alot, and its hard to help them. They just love that person so much that it doesn't matter anymore. If you see this is happening try to help the other person if you can.
2006-12-01 20:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dee P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'It's the heart afraid of breaking that never learns to dance'
That's a line from 'The Rose', I was recently in a similar situation. I loved my wife unconditionally for years, then we split up and now that I am over her I can see exactly how much emotional garbage I put up with from her-but at the time I was too afraid of being lonely to have the courage to leave. When you are in a relationship you often put up with the bad stuff because your heart keeps telling you that there is always a chance things might change, only when you remove the emotional connection to that person can you see the reality of the situation you have been in.
There are many people who stay in unhappy relationships because they are afraid of being alone, thankfully I am no longer one of them. I may still be single but I have my dignity and self respect.
2006-12-02 06:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because a person doesn't fully accept and like themselves for what they are today. They don't want to be alone. You need to be your own best friend! People feel and think it's such a hard thing to do, but it is so simple- it's just a matter of accepting yourself for what you are, all your ups and downs! Thinking positive, and liking yourself! For every negative thought you think or feel about yourself, turn it around with a positive. Don't ever forget to stop patting yourself on the back for a job well done-big or small! Each time you make a decision for your self, like getting away from one of those creeps, you self esteem has no where to go-but UP!!
2006-12-02 04:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes that is the only thing we know. We are not all brought up in the same kind of families. Some people have never ever been treated right. It is what they expect. Pain and emotion are tied together so much. You seem on the outside looking in, maybe you just need to ask...alot of people have been throughalot of things. I know...everyone says get over it...but you know something, I can do it in my head and still my heart messes me up....Count your blessings because truly you are blessed
2006-12-02 04:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scientifiacally this is known as the battered wife syndrome that is where the wife is treated badly and kicked and punched unfortunately they have to make up there own mind to leave then change their habits of self worth then this changes the bad people they attract one after another that is something that has never changed with modern society .
2006-12-02 05:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by john h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know. It is better to be alone than to go through
that crap. I know people that break up on one day , then
with someone the next. I was seeing someone one time
and everytime we were together we would argue. I decieded
IT was not worth it. bye, bye
2006-12-02 04:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by CODY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree .... nobody deserves to be treated like crap. why girls stay on is cuz of history and memories. women are emotionally weak. i went through this myself.stayed with a guy who would keep pulling and pushing me out of the relationship. then one day i walked out.and feel so stupid for putting up with it then.
2006-12-02 05:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by gaina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I often wonder the same thing.
I have to ask...what about there makes it ok for them to take abuse? They don't have the concept that they deserve to be in a good relationship.
They don't have a clue of what love is.
2006-12-02 04:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alot of people are insecure. some feel they rather have someone than no one. I know doesn't make sense.
They lack confidence and feel they can only be happy if they have someone whether that person treats them terrible or not.
2006-12-02 06:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loanlyness isn't much of a life either.
2006-12-02 04:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Robert F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋