I just broke up with my boyfriend/best friend of two years. Suddenly, my ex (from years ago) starts talking to me again, comforting me and all.. It's been years since we went out, but I realized what a sweet guy he is. It's been more than a month since the break-up.. So am i just on the rebound? Should i just distance myself from my ex too?
2006-12-01 20:26:26 · 11 answers · asked by Elizabeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. You are on the rebound. Anytime you leave a long-term serious relationship, you need to give yourself some time to heal. As far as your ex-ex goes, he probably saw an opportunity and jumped at it. Suddenly, he isn't the bad guy anymore, as someone else...your current ex...has taken over that spot. While I don't think you need to distance yourself from him, I do think you need to step back and figure out where this is going. You can still be friends with the first ex without getting seriously involved.
2006-12-01 20:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah everyone and i mean everyone always goes on the rebound and its not good cause i was in a 2 year realationship to figure out i was just a rebound and it tore me apart so it tends to really hurt people ,so your hurt and for some reason you dont think about the other persons feelings, just what ur feeling and u no they might really like or even love u and youve done this and they think you like them and in the end its all a mess so yeah just think about it
or even beter let this guy no that u think his just your comfort nothing more
2006-12-01 20:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by TiGa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why'd u break up with the 1st guy? there must be a reason. so it's prolly just the rebound affecting u. cool urself off and analyze the situation again.
2006-12-01 20:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would be steering clear of all guys for at least 6 months, give yourself time to clear the heart and discover yourself as a single person, so many ppl rush into a new relationship and most of the time it ends in more heartache.
2006-12-01 20:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay away from the ex at this juncture - it's the equivalent of drunk-dialing. You broke up with him for a reason, after all.
2006-12-01 20:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by my_super_unnecessarily_long_name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's being friendly because he cares ... and you like the attention .... stick with it ... but just be aware that the feelings you're currently experiencing could be heightened or inflated by the fact that you have recently broken up and are feeling a little vulnerable
2006-12-01 20:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not going to marry the guy... just hang out. you need company too. and yes, it's rebound reaction, from the sound of it...
2006-12-01 20:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by janicebks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the "comforting me" part that worries me..I'd definitely still see the guy but I'd go really slow and question my motives often
2006-12-01 20:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by SunnySmile83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be affecting you. And you probably just needed someone you "know" to express your feelings to...
2006-12-01 20:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do whats right for you....the ex knows the story and wants you back...its ultimately your choice..
2006-12-01 20:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by admiralawesome2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋