i really love him.but we are half the world apart.and i have been into a lot of interwoven relationship and it scares me this time because i love him so much and i dont know if he can love me the same way i love him or more..i have been worrying too much about this.i really wanna be with him more than anything else.please give me some advice
2006-12-01 19:49:16 · 22 answers · asked by Sweetsalt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ur in a delicate position, dear.
In any relationship I lay u down my 5 most important factors:
1. Mental aspect:
On this aspect u seem to get along well with this guy. U both
kind of think similarly. Good.
2.Looks aspect:
Depends on how u find ur partner's looks. U both have to
be somewat compatible. ie he cant be too short & u too
long or he too fat & u too thin and viceversa. This u can
solve by chating with him on the webcam & seeing him live.
3. Spritual aspect.
He has to have the similar faith as u. Like its uncomfortabe for
both if one is a atheist & one is not. If one is a Muslim & the
other a Hindu. If one is a punk rocker the & the other a devote
catholic. U get my point.
4. Fincial aspect.
U both should also think on the same terms financially. He
should obviously not be a financial mess. Should be able to
look after U financially without ur contribution (although u can
contribute later on). He should not be a spend thrift.
5. SEX.
U both should have similar sex drives. He shouldnt be a swinger & u absolutly hate it. He shouldnt like anal or oral & U absolutely hate it. and of course should not be GAY.
of the 5 u have only got through the 1st part. U have all the time in the world to check him out. Do it. I for one would not be suprised if u did not find him to ur liking. He could have a bad breath for all you know.
Check him out!!!!
2006-12-01 20:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online relationships always carry a certain risk quotient. Though you may not wanna go through the 'listen to your heart' routine,this is a case where it certainly applies. If you guys are faced with geographical distances, it is gonna be a hard one to keep. You have gotta find a risk -free way of meeting him.Maybe online with a webcam. You have most importantly got to ascertain whether this guy is what he says he is. If he is, you guys should take it to the next level. If, hopefully your relationship does turn out to be a meaningful one, you will have to make a proper assessment of what you are willing to give up in order to be with him.Know that you will have to sacrifice all that is familiar to you in order to fit in wherever this guy is. You should honestly and truthfully voice your feelings to him. Get an equally honest answer and only then should you stake your heart. You don't want to go there and find out that he is committed elsewhere and been playing you all along. Hope that things work out for you and that this advice, though sermonlike, will help you in some way, to make the right decision.Goodluck.
2006-12-01 20:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by Martinique Samuelson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't consider this love or anything near it. This person is filling a void in your life and typing words. Your feelings are real, but it isn't reality.
When you meet someone, even local, they usually arn't anyone you would consider to be with in your real life situation. Plus, often guys from out of the country just want to get in to the States.
True love isn't obcessed with the person.
I know people who have moved distances and never once has it worked out.
Your need for a person to love you right now is greater than your better judgment. Best take your dreams back to reality. This guy is NOT your happy ever after.
2006-12-01 19:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that people change when you meet them. Disappointments break up most relationships because of things that are failed to be done. to fill that need to be please, looked after and loved. No one wants to be Disappointed with there partner, it happens day to day in relationships were people are togethere. Just think running to a person on the other side of the world only to find you clash. Be careful! I know there is little one can tell you about the ones you love and convince you otherwise, but the one thing i would like to get across to you is that to be careful of peoples hidden lives and Agendas. all the best
2006-12-01 21:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by devsmash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you cannot possibly be in love with someone you never met! LOVE isn't just emotional, it is a physical connection as well. LOVE is also a decision, which makes it mental as well. So, LOVE needs to be emotional, physical, and mental--ALL THREE! I have been dating someone wonderful for 2 months now, but I can't truly say I LOVE him yet!
I can see how you have an infatuation, but LOVE?
Honey, meet the man first before you decided if it is love or not!
2006-12-01 19:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know whether it will work or not unless or until you spend months being physically together. It's so easy to be in love in cyberspace where you don't see all his annoying habits. Either make arrangements to spend some time together and go from there, or else break it off completely.
2006-12-01 20:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for whats in your heart. If you feel like this is right then there is no point in wondering. Go for what you feel because at least you'll know if it worked out or not rather then wonder for the rest of your live with regrets...
2006-12-01 19:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by GOODGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got 2 c him b4, u can't trust anyone on the net, he can wrote anything u wanna hear but in reality he can not be the one u imagine.
try 2 c him then think about the relation
good luck
2006-12-01 19:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by kanou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think love can't happen through net. ask yourself why do you love him .You don't know him personally. You don't what is his behavior in real world.Is he able to keep you happy?chatting online is really different.he could have written many high thoughts but do you know if he is really same in real life also?answer these questions and you will get answer of your question.
2006-12-01 19:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Yeah it should there is no reason it shoudnt but I would say you also meet him a few times before you take a serious decission on it
Regards
Sameer Shaikh
http://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com
2006-12-01 19:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋