ok so me and my boyfreind have been together for about 2 .5 years and our relationship is starting to get boring ,the passions kinda gone. he talks to random girls alot,but not enough to accuse him of flirting wit them. we're happy together and barely fight ,and have alot in common ,but he's starting to feel like just a friend. I think i'm starting to fall for a friend of mine, he's hot ,sweet,kind and we also have alot in common,but he's the type that rather study than party and don't think he wants a relationship with ANYBODY. while my boyfreinded is always the life of the party and you can have fun with him no matter what your doing . should I pursue the guy I like or play it safe? I think if I work at it ,we could have a relationship by this summer. but if it does'nt work out what if I'm giving up an even better guy. my friend has a great future ahead of him a surgeon or lawyer,while my bofriend is always out ,club hoppin,or getting drunk.PLZ help
2006-12-01 19:45:38 · 9 answers · asked by babygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can ask your boyfriend what he wants in life. You sound as if you want both qualities, responsible yet fun and outgoing. Your current boyfriend can change, he can stop doing the things that hurt you. You have to ask him if he is willing to make a difference in his life. You have to search out for your happyness, and if your boyfriend doesn't realize what he got, than do what is needed. There is nothing worse than having someone that doesn't value you.
2006-12-02 05:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Wandering Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok it seems like your boyfriend is treating you with respect and i think you should do the same. Ask him this... Where do you see yourself in 10yrs time. If he can't give you a good answer that sounds kinda similar to yours then i think you should split. You don't want a no hoper all your life. Ask the other guy the same question. If it doesn't involve a relationship then i don't think he's the one. Why not be single for a while if this happens? Go out and look at all the hotties. Flirt a little... or be independant and take up something you will enjoy and focus on other than guys. I reckon in my opinion the nice quiet guy sounds pretty good though, but he'll never do if he dun want a relationship. The other guy sounds like a derrow that is flirting with other girls, otherwise it wouln't have come to your attention. unless you are being paranoid. Find out about this quiet dude. Find out wat he wants and if it's wat you want start some flirting.
2006-12-02 03:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ooo sweety, sounds like you're in between a rock and a hard place... If i were you, I'd give your heart some time to think. You shouldn't look at relationships like, I think I can be in one with this person by this time. Things just happen, go with the flow. If things are loosing their spark with your boyfriend of 2.5 years, then talk to him about it, maybe there's something both of ya'll can do together to get the spark back, and as for this new guy, it's cool that you have an attraction to him, you wouldn't be human if you didn't spark some kind of interest for a guy like that (if he's how you described him to be) but, wouldn't it be silly to throw away 2.5 years with your boyfriend for a guy who does not want a relationship right now, and who you might just be infatuated with? Crushes come and go, but love is there to stay.
If I were you, I'd have a serious talk with your boyfriend, ask him how he feels with ya'lls present situation / relationship, ask him what his future plans are, and if you're tired of his club hopping and drinking then ask him to maybe set sometime apart where ya'll can just chill together. It's awesome to have a social life, but it's equally as awesome to have a private life (a working, loving relationship)...
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-02 03:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Buckwild 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex used to talk on the Internet ALL the time & girls used to call his phone till the day when he left it home & I answered it & found out that he was seeing someone on the side. He lied to my face about going to the city!! tell ur boyfriend that u need more together time or u don't think the relationships going to work!! Tell him to pick between club hopping & u. Or tell him that he can only go out club hopping 2x a month & the rest is for ur relationship. See what he does & how he handles everything then decide weather to end it or Not!!
2006-12-02 03:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're like this with a boyfriend, then don't get married. The hot, passionate love doesn't last a life-time in a marriage either. After awhile, you just get used to each other. If you're young, you don't need to be that serious anyway.
2006-12-02 03:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's time to show him what you're made of.
Rock his world. Shave it, wear something sexy, change things entirely. Stability breeds neglect. The first time you show up with a wild card will set your relationship on its edge. He'll either respond or not.
If he isn't interested after something like that, move on. Someone is ready for you. You sound very nice.
2006-12-02 03:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chose the one with his head on hi sholders . i just got back from bar hopping and i have absolutly nothing but a empty wallet on a friday even . why couldnt i have been a lawer or docter . maybey i would have a real purpose in life.
2006-12-02 03:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by stollensilverchevelle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for the good guy.
I only say this b/c he sounds like me, but also b/c if you have no passion for someone then you shouldnt be with them.
2006-12-02 03:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Guy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go for the surgen
2006-12-02 06:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋