I want to talk to girls, but I fear rejection. How does a guy rise above the intimidation of rejection?

Question

This has been bugging me for years. I can attract girls, but when I talk, I just get nervous as hell. I just feel like anything I do or say is going to hurt my chances of getting closer, so I completely avoid the situation.

It's actually getting worse as time moves on and I'm starting to lose most of my friends, including guys because they think I'm weird because I haven't ever had a relationship with a girl.

Answer 1

When you approach a girl, think to yourself that it doesn't matter if she rejects you because you will find someone else. Who cares if you get rejected a couple times. EVERYBODY does at some point in their life. Just remember be yourself and there are a lot of women in this world.

Answer 2

1st- If your guy friends leave because they think you are gay, drop them, those aren't real friends.
2nd- You will get rejected.
3rd- Learn from when you get rejected and don't let it keep you down, everyone gets rejected sometime.
4th- Don't worry so much that you'll say something stupid, unless you are going for high strung superficial girls, they aren't going to say "ooh he said something stupid, he must be a loser". Just laugh it off and if you can muster the courage, say you are nervous.
5th- Don't try to get a bunch of girls, find one girl, the right girl and have a long relationship.

Things said may offend but I'm gonna tell it like it is and not surround it with fluffy frilly pillows.

Answer 3

Sounds like you need to find some confidence in yourself. You can practice what you want to say on a friend or in front of the mirror. You can learn to gain confidence and self esteem by looking at all the good things about you. Women look for a man who walks with confidence and talks with confidence. Remember practice makes perfect and that the more women reject you the more likely someone won't.

Answer 4

Hey dude wake up or else you would end up holding your own till you die. Appraoch her, man if you like some one if she rejects she was not yours and neither will be . Moreover do not jump into a relationship just for the sake of proving a point to your friends . I am sure you will find someone soon ,just be confident and do not look at all girls as a probable girlfriend after all you have only one ----.

Answer 5

don't worry about it I'm the same way I'm 20 never had a relation ship but now I'm stepping up and gaining more confidence about it and this is how i fell of things
First joke with them a little then say stuff that give hint to them that u like them such as if she says "its hot" be like its you or your the only one hot in here. see what the response is if she likes that talk about her. like do you have any kids or do you have any brother or sisters then ask do you have a boy friend if now then ask if she would like to hang out some time or go to the movies if you don't want to move to fast then talk to her normal like you would a friend Do not talk lies ever unless she is a hoe lol
if you end up going out then she finds out that you lied she will dump you very fast if not then she will lie to you or treat you like a kid or never see you again. The first step if to become her friend then she will tell you how she fell about dating you good luck I know i need it and a little encourment to go out with the girl I'm talking kinda to . btw dont worry obout the guy if they a rely your friends then they will try to help them but if your like me and have better standrs than most such as not just want her for sex a bar scene guy then you will A LONG LAST RELATION SHIP .my parents been married for over 23 year based on ture love and they never had a relation ship with some one else before they met so im planing to do the same and find a girl that see it as i do good luck to you and me 11:11 ace

Answer 6

lol your guy friends are ditching you cause you dont have a girl?? rofl i would understand if they did it cause you had a girl u need some new friends

well think about it... talking and being nervous about it gets u more relax for the next time it happens and you have a 5% chance of a relationship with that person if you dont talk you have ZERO

hope you thrive on pressure and the fear of lonliness cuz that is shizzz

Answer 7

Let u in on a secret, girls are exactly the same we are scared of rejection too. Be urself try different techniques to try to relax b4 u start talking to a girl. She is just as nervous as u!

Answer 8

Just breath for few minutes before you go up to her and GO for it just say hi how are you since i guess you know her just say would you like to go to a movie or dinner sometime. SHe is not going to bite you head off she will be nice and if she likes you she will say yes. It beats sitting at home and wishing you were with her then acutally being with her bc you got the nerves to do it. Just pretend you are talking with a close friend just talk to her like one of them. Picture asking your parents to a movie or where ever you want to take her that might help. TRUST ME YOU NEED TO ASK HER SHE MAY LIKE YOU you wont know until you try. Do not worry about how you may look just act like you are not nervous just picture things that you do not get nervous about.
good luck.

Answer 9

been there done that, in fact im just starting now, i''m almost to a very close relationship with one in fact. all you have to do is just talk, iwas nervous at first but then im geetting the hang of it/ Maybe you can try chatting online, it is much easier cause you are not actually seeing the girl but talking to one, and have it build up from there

Answer 10

For one thing stop thinking and do it
thats the point to this
girls problay thinkin why wont he jsut ask already
Just stop thinking about it and go ask a girl you like out
you would be surprised in there reaction
i know alot of girls that like shy guys
i do myself took my bf jeff a year to ask me out and ive had a crush on ghim for 2
i knew he would soon or later
so just go for it