This girl who we will call Sarah who I worked with kinna led me on to think that she liked me. I found out that she was talking behind my back saying that I was annoying. Also this girl who is friends with her was joking with me saying that if I run Sarah (the girl) out (meaning doesn't want to be by me), then thats pretty sad(She is also implying that Sarah is fat and ugly by saying thats pretty sad) I then told her that well is Sarah wants better looking guys, then she has to lose weight because the way she is now a guy like me would be in her league, but no one better looking. Well she told Sarah, and Sarah is pissed at me. Does she have every right to be, or did I make a valid point?
2006-12-01 18:49:40 · 17 answers · asked by james w 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This was at work? That's totally inappropriate on both your parts. Leave your drama outside of the workplace and get on with the job. She didn't like you. So what. Move on. Why even bother being snide. You're both at fault.
2006-12-01 18:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lex 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So you are saying that outer beauty or lack there of is all that matters? Only "fat" girls are attracted to you and if she loses weight she will look for a better looking guy?
Sounds like you have issue with "sarah's" looks or even a self-esteem problem if all you can get are fat and ugly girls. I think you were out of line because that was a lose-lose situation. You can't tell one girl something without it getting back to the other and is usually mis-interpreted somehow. Guys need to learn when to zip the lip and things would be much smoother.
2006-12-02 02:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by bellgoddess1 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
obviously that sarah girl is not very mature if she is playing games like this. what you said might not have been nice, but at least you were not playing games back at her, and maybe it was not so much what you said that bothers her, but the fact that you came out and said it is what is bothering her. let he cool off and you need to just move on. if she tries to talk to you, tell her that you are not interested in her fake-ness and her games, but that you apologize for your remarks. end the conversation by telling her that you just want that the two of you should be cordial enough to get along at work. you guys might even become friends later when she grows up a little and you continue being a nice co-worker
2006-12-02 02:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by azinum 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What did you learn over all this? Girls talk, and you should realize that what you say behind HER back will get back to you in another form. Don't depreciate any woman. You should know that through this. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You have no right to put yourself on some pedestal, like you are the judge of prime beef! I don't have words acceptable here for you. Yes, you did not do right in all of this. Learn from it!!!
2006-12-02 03:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by desertflower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don' think you were in the wrong. What is good for the goose, is good for the gander and she has now been given a taste of her own medicine. If she can't accept having remarks said about her, then she shouldn't be saying things about other people....
2006-12-02 03:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by sarch_uk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think Sarah was just trying to be nice to you and you took it the wrong way. She didn't mean to lead you on ,that's just the way you see it. She realized she couldn't just be nice and polite to you because you began to take it to the next level. You were mad that she didn't like you the way you wanted her to so you decided to get even by saying that she needed to lose weight, and that was rude in itself. YOU are very wrong, and you should apologize to her and then leave her alone.
2006-12-02 02:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
is honesty wrong ? or do you want to be a dishonest person. a lot of women can't handle honesty at all. move on, she's not worth another moment of your time. especially if she thinks you're annoying. either you are or she probably has no personality. maybe you need to be less focused on looks and more focused on what's important.
2006-12-02 03:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you were in the wrong, and I think it's a waste of energy to try to get back at someone after you find out she doesn't like you.
2006-12-03 00:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I kinda think as you two being equals. She talking trash about you behind your back and you talking trash about her behind her back. It's not worth much more thinking, move on.
2006-12-02 03:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Angelica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yah you kinda were, I'm sure though that you said it thinking it wouldn't go any farther than you two. I would be more careful what you tell that co-worker.
2006-12-02 02:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋