I have a boyfriend of 6 months, we are planning to take a vacation and have sex, but I am not flawless because of scars due to burn on my covered body, what should I do?
2006-12-01 18:44:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
if he loves you he wont care about your imperfections. you can try confronting him about your insecurity so he wont feel like you dont want to have sex with him when it gets to the big moment.
2006-12-01 18:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has scars, whether they are the type that show, or the type in the mind.
Never worry about trying to be flawless, nothing is. That is part of the beauty in the world - the differences between people and things.
Many people here have already said it, but it is very true that someone who cares for you will not care about scars, and may even find that they make YOU unique.
How he reacts to this will tell you a lot about his approach to you in general.
2006-12-02 03:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Doryu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one is flawless. Have you explained to him about the scarring? That might be a good way to start before the vacation - don't surprise him with it. Also if he really cares for you the scars won't make any difference.
LL
2006-12-02 02:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by LeapingLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good advice is above. If you boyfriend really likes you at all, he should like you in all ways, and if he loves you then the scars wouldnt be a problem at all. Let him know how you feel about this. You should be able to talk to him about anything at all if you are going to go all the way with him. & im sure he will understand and wont have a problem with it. If he does then their might be a "flaw" in the relationship. And thats the fact that he cant accept you and think your beautiful inside and out. Because their are many good guys out their, hard to find ..maybe, but their are those who will feel that you are..inside and out. But i personally have the same issue with stretch marks, and I dont like to look at them myself let alone my boyfriend. But i do know that he loves me and doesnt care about my marks, so theirs no real problem. For your security, just turn down the lights if it makes you feel better. If your more romantic, then use candles instead. I hope all goes well for you. :)
xox Brittany xox
2006-12-02 03:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by xox Brittany xox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah you are unique! Feel wonderful in it. Skin is an organ like any other, and I say wear your scars with pride! I knew a gal who was burned so badly they had to make incisions just so she could move her arms and you know what, she is married to a wonderful man, has beautiful children, and kicks my *** at pool weekly. If he is a good man he will love you regardless if you were growing a third arm!
2006-12-02 03:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by devisissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 months you should be able to be open with him. If you can't them maybe the time is not right for the two of you. He should be understanding and loving of you irregardless...and know that no one is perfect. If you're looking at girls on magazines and everything kknow that those girls are airbrushed and madeup heavily and are edited by computer programs...no one is perfect.
2006-12-02 02:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your vacation and have sex. If your boyfriend says anything about your scars, talk to him about it and tell him how you feel.
2006-12-02 04:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by jacobsbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
News Flash....most super models on the covers of those magazines have flaws! They use professional photoshop programs to make them all look perfect!
None of us are. I have stretch marks from 2 babies, scars from surgeries, and no problem finding men who think I'm drop dead sexy!
It's all in your confidence and the way you carry yourself.
Be lovable, and You'll be loved. Be resentful, hateful, spiteful, and self pitying and you'll find yourself alone.
Talk to him...if your close enough to him to have sex with him, then you should be able to talk to him.
Trust me honey....most men can overlook anything if they love you, and are impassioned towards you.
2006-12-02 13:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't want to have sex cause of the burns then just say he will understand and if he doesn't and still wants sex then he shouldn't be your boy friend
2006-12-02 06:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then turn off the lights when you're going to have sex with him! or better tell him the truth. Y is sex so important today?
2006-12-02 05:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by shiela marie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flaws are what make women so beautiful........if everyone was flawless it would be quite boring......if he loves you he won't care, unless some of the scares hurt you, but you should tell him first so he isn't shocked.
2006-12-02 23:32:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋