Having been on the dating scene for waaaay too long, and not really getting anywhere, last weekend i went 2 a party for some mates. While i was there. I had a few too many champers, and ended up staying the night with a very old friend of mine. (by old friend, i mean "have known for a long time" old!) Anyway, I have worshipped him for over a decade, roughly since i was twelve. He had a fair bit to drink too, and I'm a bit frightened that may be the only reason we spent the night together. Ive managed to avoid him since last sunday, but tonight he will be at another party I need to go to. I'm not the type of girl he usually dates, being more 'normal' looking, as opposed to 'model' type....and, to cut a long story short, I'm terrified I'm going to either say the wrong thing, or get my heart stomped on. A very long time ago, i resigned myself to the knowledge that nothing was going to happen, but for something to happen, and me to be rejected afterwards, would be more than i could bear.
2006-12-01 18:35:05 · 9 answers · asked by talz_talz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welp, you have to be yourself, after all he is an old friend, why would a friend diss you? Now if he gives you the "i'm sorry i'm not attracted to you" bit, don't die, it happens.....people do things when they're drunk...it's what happens. But i'm sure he won't straight up reject you and hurt your feelings. Just be yourself and don't be so nervous, which is easier said than done i know...but that's all you have. Life was meant for challenges, only way people can survive. SO with that being said....your challenge is to deal with whatever happens on party night. If you be yourself, hang out with the old friend, and things go well, then you've succeeded.... If you be yourself, hang out with the old friend, and he just wants to be friends, or you make it obvious you want him and he says he doesn't see you like that.....then if you just deal with it as is, and move on from the what is now fantasy...then you've succeeded again. It will go bad when you MAKE it bad.....otherwise you can take it for face value and learn from it.....and move on to the next part of life.
2006-12-01 18:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just act cool ,dont talk about what happened that night at all. Even if your uncomfortable with what happened. Just let him know your fine with it and you've moved on by not mentioning it. If he wants to be with you he will make an effort to be with you. Let him make the moves and see what he says. Just because your not the model type doesn't mean he can't or wont be interested. A good way to get your heart stomped on is by being all giddy and acting vunerable. Just respect yourself and let things go naturally. Things will work out for the best in the long run
2006-12-02 02:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A party you "need" to go to? I don't know about that. But anyway, go to the party if you want. He can't stop you. If you feel so bad about seeing him, then when you do act like you don't. Just pretend he's not there. This may make the night easier and it could make him notice you. He will wonder why your not talking to him and it could turn him on or just curious. Either way go or not go to a party becuase you want to. Forget about who's there.
2006-12-02 02:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dress up and look simply beautiful. Don't try too hard though! I would not drink any alcohol at all so you can be in total control if yourself. hold your head high, act like a true lady, hold no shame or remorse, life is too short to beat yourself up, move on. Be happy, friendly and polite and just enjoy the party... good luck :)
2006-12-02 02:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by genieejj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, don't be too afraid of rejection. Who cares if he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with you? There are lots of guys who are looking for a 'normal' girl who can converse, relate and empathize with them, and as long as you stay true to your own moral compass, you'll be fine. As for the whole drunk hookup, BFD. Everyone's above the age, so just ENJOY LIFE. Be safe :)
2006-12-02 02:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by vancup2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first step is that you're going to have to talk to him. Try being casual for a day or so and then ask him "So, that party Sunday... got pretty crazy huh." or something to that extent and lead him into talking to you about what was going through his head.
2006-12-02 02:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by [11:11 pm] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! I love this kind of stories. Just don't change your personality because of this because that might be what he really likes about you. Besides... models are too tall!
2006-12-02 02:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by imegalihimera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know until you two meet again.
2006-12-02 02:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him,
if he was drunk it was probably just a fling
2006-12-02 02:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by funny.bones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋