my girlfreind wont allow me to see my baby.she claims I have a bad temper and lack parenting skills.also I was convicted of child abuse(1st degree) and sex abuse on a miner (1st degree) a few years back.what she doesnt realize is she cant keep that baby from me.I need that baby.i love that baby.the baby is mine.My question is how do i go about gaining custity of my baby?as far as I know my record should be cleared now?any advice on how I can get custity of my baby?
2006-12-01 18:27:33 · 14 answers · asked by ativan73 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
star this isnt a spelling and grammer contest.stick to the question ok.
2006-12-01 18:31:58 · update #1
I'm willing to enroll in anger management and parenting classes to show how comitted i am to be with my chils but I'm sure my girlfreind will still bring up the fact i was arrested on 3 occastions for faliure to pay child support.
2006-12-01 18:42:59 · update #2
This is a ' joke ' question right. Are you trying to draw out the 'clueless' people here ? Let me rephrase this . . . this IS a joke question and you are just trying to draw out 'clueless' people here. How many fell for this question before I submitted my comment here ?
2006-12-01 18:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by onelight 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Custody issues have to be settled in court. You don't mention whether or not you have legal custody of the baby. If you do not have legal custody, then you probably don't have a good chance of gaining custody until you can demonstrate to the courts that you are actually the father and are capable of providing a safe home for the child.
If your girlfriend is keeping your child, but does not have legal custody, then that is not legal. Before you attempt to get your baby back, you should think about the reasons your girlfriend is concerned. What if she is right - and you lose your temper with the baby? Are you certain you won't harm the baby when it is screaming and annoying you?
My advice is to talk to a social worker and see what type of assistance they can provide you. They can probably help with some type of counseling or evaluation of your parenting skills. This type of thing would help convince the courts or your girlfriend that you are able to provide a safe home, and it might help you to be a better parent.
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2006-12-02 02:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by formerly_bob 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At most, you should get supervised visitation.
With your history, it is not likely you would legally get custody, and you shouldn't hope for or expect it. With 2 convictions for serious crimes again children, you should just count yourself lucky that you are not in jail right now.
If you want visitation rights, you should go out of your way to try and learn how to be a good parent. Enroll in parenting classes, see a psychologist---something---to show that you are truly willing to turn yourself around. Just ranting and raving that you should be allowed to see your child won't help you, and if you have anger management problems, it'll even just make your more upset.
Actions speak louder than words----you have to do a LOT of good actions to make up for the SERIOUSLY bad actions you've done. You might not think it's fair, but that's the way it works.
2006-12-02 02:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by P-nuts and Hair-dos 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sound like you may have some issues. Stay away from the baby hey give it a chance. You say you need the baby but what positive things do you have to offer a child you dont pay child support convicted of sexual abuse and sounds like you have a temper hummmmmmmmmm loser leave the kid alone
2006-12-02 03:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by lilme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were my babies father, I would go to court to ask that you not even be allowed to see the baby under the circumstances..If you are a registered sex offender and you should be you will NEVER be able to get custody of a child no matter how much counseling you get or apologies you make.. You should count yourself blessed to even get supervised visitation...My son was sexually molested..His abused was NEVER prosecuted and therefore in the future I truly believe will do it again..No justice for my son or the future victims to be.
2006-12-02 02:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by chilover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, people who abuse children, have been abused themselves and pass it on...along with the sexual abuse...If you are serious, you MUST go through the courses now...don't just say you will...also, you will never get custody of your baby, with these things in your past...I have no doubt that you love your baby,...but the things that have affected you growing up, will always be there and a threat to your child..even if you don't want them to be...you may promise yourself, that you won't hurt the little darling,..but the abuse you have withstood, will always be there until you can honestly, rid your life of it...About the only thing that I can see, that might and I emphasize the word, might,...help you with your little one, is if you accept the Lord God, and His Son, Jesus Christ....learn to forgive the monsters who abused you...apologize to the people you abused that put you in jail...and be happy to see the little one when you can in the presence of it's mom...do you REALLY want to take the chance of hurting your little one? I don't think you do...you must get straight first,...before you, and not meaning too..do something to that little one you will live to regret..Please, pray hard on this one...with God, all things are possible..you are a sinner like the rest of us, and can be forgiven..
2006-12-02 04:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you have previous child abuse and sex abuse charges i dont think they ever get wiped because that is a criminal record.
u are going to need a real good lawyer if u want to win custody of your childeren even if they are not the childeren u abused. the law will see you as a potential threat to your childeren
i am not saying you are not a good father, you are probably trying to be the best father you can. im juststating the obvious.
you have a real fight on your hands
2006-12-02 02:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my state you would be a registered sex offender and thus would not get custody of a child through the courts. They would give you supervised visitation and that's all.
2006-12-02 02:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any chance for you to get custody of you child due to your record but you you may try for limited supervised visitation. You may have to have see a Psychiatrist . It might be a long shot but check with a lawyer. As far as I see with your record it may be tough.
2006-12-02 02:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
With your history, you don't deserve to see your child. Even if you committed your sex offense as a minor, you probably are a registered sex offender and they will not let you have any contact with children.
2006-12-02 02:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋