i'm still a virgin and my boyfriend is being all weid and i think he's cheating i love him so much and don't want to lose but i don't really want to have sex but i'll do anything to keep him around what do i do!!!!!!!HELP PLEASE!!!!
2006-12-01 18:19:57 · 33 answers · asked by ghetto fabolous 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sweetie u need to leave him alone. Does the phrase HIT N RUN ring a bell. well hun he's just going to hit it and quit it. Listen to LYFE JENNINGS SONG S.E.X. don't let noone force you to do what you don't want to. your virginity is so special dont loose it with that fool and u answered your own question. He's cheating kuz he hasn't gotten it, girl he's a loser. trust me you think you love him there are other fishes in the sea you'll get over it.
2006-12-01 19:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by Nikita R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never never do anything that you dont want to do or aren't sure about for someone else. Your virginity is something that you can never get back after you give it away. You want to lose it to someone that you know for sure loves you and if you think he is cheating on you that is a red flag to get out of the relationship.You can love someone and not have sex and even if you have sex with him its not gonna keep him around he may even just leave you after he has gotten what he has wanted. I would say wait out the relationship and talk to him about where he thinks its going. Wait till you want to give it away not when you think you have too
2006-12-01 18:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't ever give yourself for the sake of keeping someone, it never works trust me. If he can't respect the gift you have...then he sure as hell doesn't deserve it. My fiance was a virgin when i met her...i NEVER pushed it...at all...i left that decision strictly up to her....that is hers and not for me to pressure or take. And because i loved her I could wait.....and i told her to....but....she was persistent on it....and we took the route of just messing around...(all things aside from actual intercourse, touching, dry humlpin, the likes), and like after a while she just made the decision to do it....mainly cause she knew i wasn't goin anywhere, and she was ready.
So for YOU...don't lose it for the sake of keeping him....if you feel he's strayin away, then ask him what's up.....explain how you feel...if his behind DARES to have the audacity to pressure you to have sex with him...he ain't worth it....what you have is a gift that shouldn't be abused..it is MEANT for the one who will truly have the time and patience for you, and who will go the long haul for you....not some horndog who can't hold out and for the sake of a relationship gives you an ultimatum.....sex or no relatonship.....screw that mess...he doesn't respect you if that's the case, and so therefore, not worth the time. There's millons of dudes in this world, and many who appreciate a woman's worth...don't let yourself have regrets giving to the ones that don't.
2006-12-01 18:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ohh Sweetie please DON'T DO IT! You never want to compromise yourself to keep someone around. If your boyfriend wants to be with you he will respect the fact that you are a virgin and that you are not ready for sex. Sex is something that you should do because you want to and you are ready to handle to responsibilities that come along with it. You say you love him and hopefully he loves you too and if that is the case he will understand. If you believe that he is cheating on you because you won't have sex with him now what do you think will change if you do??? Nothing at all. Your best bet is to love yourself and stick to your morals, never do something you don't want to for someone else. Be in charge of your own life. Believe me I have done it!
2006-12-01 18:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Domo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. If he really loves you he will stick around and respect you. My best friends' little brother is a virgin still and he's going to be 20 year's old, and believe me he's a hottie, but he appreciate's girls that are virgin's. It just seperate's you between from the women that know what they want in life and all the little hoe's that are running around. There's a lot of guys out there that will wait for you.
2006-12-01 18:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by MILF101 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look, if you are not ready, you are not ready. Don't compormise yourself. There's plenty of time to make mistakes.
Desperation won't help. If he's ready and pressuring you, you need to make a decison. Stay true to yourself, or cave in. Giving in may not keep him around. First time sex is rarely a picnic.
Do it only if there is a mutual trust and you're safe. I he's messing around, it may be time to move on, and perhaps reward another man with your body.
2006-12-01 18:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, DO NOT have sex to keep your b/f around!! If he loves you, he will want to respect your body and your wishes, and if you really don't want to have sex, then don't do it. Losing your virginity to a guy just to keep him around is only going to cause you hurt and pain in the end. If he can't respect your wishes, he needs to get to steppin'!! Love is about being with someone whom you can't live without. Ask yourse;f, can I live without this guy? I don't know your age, but you have all your life to meet someone else. It might be hard to move on, but there's someone out there for all of us!! Good Luck!
2006-12-01 18:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, dont have sex with him just cause you think it will keep him around. If he will leave you just cause you wont have sex with him then that is the only thing he wants from you. Find someone that wont pressure you and will wait until you are comfortable and ready.
2006-12-01 18:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by mommyslilgirl420 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, If he won't respect your wishes to stay a virgin til marriage, he sure isn't worth giving up your virginity for. He obviously is not the right one for you or he would honor your wishes and respect you more for sticking to your commitment. You will regret it terribly if you give in and once you give it up, you can never get it back. Be strong, stick to your guns and remember when one door closes another ALWAYS opens up.
2006-12-01 18:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by sunshinesue_1999 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no. if all he wants is sex from you he is not worth keeping. there is more to a relationship then just sex. if he loves you he will understand if you want to wait.
if he is cheating on you dump him. he will just keep cheating and no guy has a right to hurt a woman like that. so he is not worth keeping around.
2006-12-01 18:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋