I know someone who complains way too much = about everything. This person told me his grandmother used to tell him that he'll never have a girlfriend if he complains so much. I have never met anyone who complains as much about absolutely everything under the sun. Anyone know if such a problem is attributable or connected with a psychological problem of some type? Just wondering. All feedback will be greatly appreciated.
2006-12-01 18:00:57 · 16 answers · asked by Gina 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Try a hard slap to the face. And his grandma was probably right (Arent grandmas always right?)
2006-12-01 18:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Toddzilla SoCal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My guess is clinical depression that is not controlled by medications. Depressed people can be extremely negative at times -- about anything.
I have a friend who was, as a younger person, a delight to be around: very positive, happy, and comical. Anything I say to him might now be turned around and seen as a negative thing. He also has no empathy, so I try not to bring up anything bad that might have happened at work or elsewhere -- only what "he" has gone through can be that bad. In other words, I have lost a friend who I could once talk to, vent to, on just about anything. The disease has caused him to lose empathy and to be chronically negative, turning friends, fellow employees, and family members off. Yet he could correct all of this by taking meds, which he refuses to do so because of side effects.
I interact with him but usually only when he is the initiator. Quite frankly, I have done my best to understand his illness but I have to move on with my life and look for positive friends who validate me as a person. It has come to that point where I have to protect my own sanity and sense of well-being.
If your friend or relative has not been diagnosed with a mental illness yet, he should be encouraged to see a doctor. And then he should be encouraged to stay on his meds.
2006-12-02 03:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know the answer, but I do know what it sounds like to me. I believe, in male or female, sex has nothing to do with complaining all the time. I've known women who will do the same thing. But in my experience, I believe it can be several things. But the main one, is depression, and a very low self esteem. They usually don't like themselves very well. The depression has completely eroded their way of thinking about life. Some I have known are addicted to crisis. If any thing is ok in their life, they will find something to make it not OK. They have no understanding how to be grateful for the "small things" in life, and forgets how to laugh, and to stop and smell the roses;" for what ever reason. There are mentall illnesses that causes this as well, but there is also medication for this problem, if they even see themselves as having a problem. I have a sister, when I haven't seen her for a while, the first words out of her mouth is how horrible things are, her health, her money situation, someone hurt her feelings, made her mad, her job, her car, any thing that is negative. Negativity can become a way of life for people, some to just get attention by sitting on the "pity pot." Whereas, others, really don't know any other way of life. Either they were raised with negative parents, and the adults in their lives were negative and grumpy people; or they have had some severe trauma in their life that has affected them emotionally. A lot of sexual victims, and physical abuse victims as childern develop this negativity about life. Sometimes, you will see this with people that are very poor as well. I have seen it in males that have a poor health, poor enough to be on disability. They loose "their manhood" so's to speak. It isn't manly for a man to be physically sick, and if they are, they are a whimp - depending on the generation they were raised in. These are the kind of people that are "takers" and not "givers." They take your energy because they don't have enough of their own. It takes a lot of energy for people to be around negative people. I'm not sure what to tell you, other than it sounds like someone that needs a lot of love, understanding, and redirection!
2006-12-02 02:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Gina, most likely he has a poor self-image and the inability to accept or love himself. In my experience, usually, complaining comes from people with a chip on their shoulder. People who are typically unhappy with themselves and where they are in life tend to complain the loudest and blame others for their 'misfortunes' or more like, poor choices. Some will move on while others never do.
I honestly believe you cannot love yourself until you realize God loves you first. We are all such fallible, flawed frail human beings and knowing that God loves, forgives and accepts us allows us to in turn love others, because you cannot love others if you cannot love yourself. You'll never be happy if you cannot be happy with WHO you are, so maybe that explains why most complainers (not all) constantly complain... that and they need the attention, because once again, they are not self-reliant upon their own self-esteem.
Just my two cents.
2006-12-02 05:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by azcuriousm4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, I am convinced that it is part of their personality...I find it so annoying...they just can't stop..like a gossipy old woman...It is really hard to deal with a person like this as they are totally consumed with themselves.....sometimes, you need to just stand back, and let them know why you are ...tell him to stop acting like a woman or you will buy him a dress LOL...then run for the hills lmao..good luck darling, and find a guy who will think about YOU for a change..
2006-12-02 04:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually people who complain are sufferring from low self esteme--they feel powerless in their own life so they knock everything around them down to appear powerful...Some of these people you can break thru to ---and unfortunately some are just that way their whole lives---be a good friend---change the subject when things become negative---keep trying to find good things about this person that you can compliment them on///////councelling would be a good idea...
2006-12-02 02:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by lynn8953 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soldiers gripe about everything under the sun. Until they learn the more they gripe the more they are noticed and the more dirty jobs they get. They get over it. Try imitating a baby crying everytime they do it. (not) just you, he'll get the message.
2006-12-02 02:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sid B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to believe that it is a male trait but in reality its not. i do believe that if a person is constantly complained to are about that gives that person the intestacy to complain so i would say good things to them and about them that way it will change there thought pattern
2006-12-02 02:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by bec 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is just a negative personality. (The glass is never half full, but always half empty.)
Or he could be stroking his ego by putting everyone and everything else down. He likes to think that he could do things better than other people.
2006-12-02 02:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Freedom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This person hates his life and might hate himself. He should be encouraged to change profession, move, get a new goal.......or shut the hell up.
2006-12-02 02:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by Norton N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋