i think that i may be falling in love with one of my friends but his gf just told him that shes in love with him and it sucks because i may never get my chance. what should i do?
2006-12-01 17:32:59 · 12 answers · asked by becca_boo2442 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't mention whether he's in love with her, or if she's a mutual friend of yours (etc etc).
If he's happy with the current arrangement (you as his friend, the girlfriend as his true love), then simply back off, for your own dignity and peace of mind.
If it isn't too hurtful to you, remain his friend...because their relationship could easily end up being over in a week, a month, a year. But I'm not suggesting that you just hang around hoping that would happen. I'm just saying don't trash the friendship if you don't have to. Friends frequently outlast lovers, and I would rather have a friend I love, than nothing with him at all.
Of course, by the time they might break it off you may feel completely differently and would have moved on to a relationship with someone else...
Just remember to be your own best friend, be very honest with how your friendship with him is affecting you, and don't waste energy or heart-effort trying to change how he feels towards you. You might be able to lure him into being unfaithful for awhile (and I don't think you want to do that), but it would only hurt all three of you and not really change how he feels towards you or this other girl.
Contrary to what the soap operas and chick flicks want us to think, we cannot make someone else love us.
Good luck!
2006-12-01 17:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait..if the girl friend just told that she is in love with him, then you in the mix will just cause more drama. Some things you do not say for peace sake. Is your friend happy, did you guys "fool around" before the other girl came around. Has he ever expressed liking you? i would not say anything just for the simple fact that it could get messy. Leave it alone and let it pane out for itself wait till the dust clears you might say.
2006-12-02 01:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a true friend, and be in his life as a friend, say nothing of your feelings right now, but be ready for the inevitable breakup, and only then when you know they have been broken up for a week or three then let on how you feel, if he responds the same way then great. however in the meantime move on and find another guy to filll your life. there are plenty of us good guys out there. if you know where to look.
yes i know it is a downer to find out his girlfriend said she loves him. but do you know how he feels about her? if he says he is not in love with her then he should be a man about it and tell her how he truly feels, and not to lead her on.
good luck.
2006-12-02 01:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't already know you have feeling for him he may not feel the same way.if he loves her also you should defiantly stand down ,because if you really love him you would want him to be happy even if it not with you.i think if i were you i would let him know how you feel in a joking sort of way that way you can bail if it gets weird.what meant to be with always find a way.good luck
2006-12-02 01:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by mike o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in a relationship. That means he is off limits to you. Start acting like a friend, if you know how.
2006-12-02 01:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should tell your friend how u feel because u never kno what could happen btwn them or if he has the same feelings for u and was waitn for u to say somethin
2006-12-02 01:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by canarybrd09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him you have to wait for him. if he's happy right now, let him be happy because that's how much you should care for him. and once he and his girlfriend break up be there for him. but don't make your move until you know he's moved on because you wouldn't want him to be with you and still have lingering feelings for her.
2006-12-02 01:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know but I think I just fell In love with you.
2006-12-02 01:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by ohn D272727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the gf ,this is your life do what makes u happy.If your friend makes u happy then tell.
2006-12-02 01:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lt.Gonz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be daring enough to let him know your feelings.It's not a bad thing,cos they are not married,so don't feel guilty about it.Best woman wins!
2006-12-02 01:37:48 · answer #10 · answered by ike mie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋