Where did i go wrong with this girl???please help urgent!!!?

Question

Heres the story(5weeks)...this girl, we always use to go lunch, out to movies, and even the occasional dinner/going out with friends of ours. Everything was really great...she likes to touch me alot, and we always use to laugh....now all thats gone, the past week has been really hard as i dont know what has happened. Her B/f did break up with her, but we use to go on lunches even before that happened. I didnt make the move cause i really didnt want to move too fast for the girl. Im so annoyed at her this past week...she doesnt respond to my txt's, unless its really urgent, and she seems to have gotten real distant from me...i have yet to ask her why, but she works with me, and i dont want to say anything yet...i really like her, and dont know what to do...One thing i noticed though, is shes really nice and laughing to everyone else...but shes now got a awkward feeling towards me everytime im there, as if she doesnt want to talk to me/ignoring me. and then we think girls arent evil

Couple of details id like to mention, the girl use to take me to lunch before the breakup, not the other way around, and she'd want me to go do things with her...ie after work have a coffee or something... After the breakup, she wanted me to be the one to confort her, which i done of course, and we started going out even more doing lunches, movies, etc.....even introduced me to a couple of her friends.....i dont know what to do now???.....Recently she got really mad at me, and told me to F#ck off, i havent talked to her since, she seems to be frustrated at me only....shes slowly starting to talk again, but i ignore her like nothing else....shes really got me mad this time, i dont know why shes taking it out on me, but i havent talked to her properly since...she asks me if im ok, and if everythings fine...im really serious toned to her now, and havent txtd again, or tried acknowledging her for awhile now...why has things got to this stage anyhow?....

Answer 1

She's got issues. Just think of her as a friend, and treat her as a good friend would, but don't get involved with her cause she'll just get crazier.

Answer 2

I think I can relate to your situation in A LOT of ways. My best friend has been in and out of relationships for the last 3 years. Unfortunately for me, I developed feelings for her, but she did not feel the same. Whenever a relationship would end, she would turn to me and we would spend a lot more time together and I loved it. The last time it happened though our friendship seemed to completely fall apart. We work side-by-side and yet most days we don't even say a word to each other. In the past we were often warned by the boss to get back to work and not talk to each other at work unless it was work related. I eventually asked that we not talk outside of work and keep it to a minimum at work. It was very difficult, especially in the beginning. As time has passed, I have felt much better with my decision and I am much happier now. She said some very hurtful things that I cannot let go of. I deserve better for all I did for her. Eventually I expect we will become friends again, but for now the best thing is to be apart. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

You should sit down and talk to her. You were really good friends before and you don't want to lose the friendship. Feelings have since been hurt. Tell her Your perspective on how you saw things and how you were hurt by what she is doing and you would like to know why she is treating you so differently. Only she can really answer that. We can guess. Maybe she cares for you and she misdirected her feelings towards you and wanted you to do something, but didn't communicate her feelings or wants.
In any relationship, you have to have honesty and communication.
If you don't have that, there isn't much else.

I would give her a chance to sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Tell her you need to let her know your feelings in the matter. You were too good of friends to just let it go like that. Best wishes to you. Hugs and prayers are going out your way.

Answer 4

sub: Well; could it be that YOU were the cause (either, directly or indirectly) of the break up between her and her boyfriend? Her feeling bad now, would explain her animosity towards you. What you can really do is admit to yourself, that you are in LOVE with her and then, make amends with her ... but go SLOWLY ! She was angry at something said or done ( even, imagined) by you to tell you to Father Uncle Cousin King "off" like she did ! Above all, don't show your displeasure with her for telling you off and giving you the cold shoulder of late. Go to her and ask her nicely, to talk with you about the whole scenario, as you are confused. Tell her that you are sorry if you said or did something to hurt her but insist NICELY on a chat about it all. Here's where the true "colours" will be revealed concerning where you really stand with her. Good luck to you !!!

Answer 5

If she started spending more time with you after the breakup then stopped suddenly one of 3 things must have happened: 1) you did something wrong that reminded her of him 2) he is trying to get back together with her and talked her out of seeing other guys 3) you got a thumbs down from her friends for some reason.

Answer 6

the best thing you could do in this situation is ask her whats wrong and tell her that you feel like she is punishing you for no apparent reason. if she still doesn't give you an answer, then give her the space she needs and wait for her to come around and see that you are a good friend and she would be stupid to let you go.

Answer 7

She might just be sick of you. Think about it, how often do you hang around her? She needs space. Talk to her about how you feel really distant from her, and how you miss her. If she says that it is over, than good ridance. Who needs a moody, crazy bi acth like that anywho?

Answer 8

Honestly, that's a little weird. I wouldn't do that although I do have some moments where I "act" like that to get attention from somebody. Maybe she's trying to get ur attention. Try and make yourself into a time of need and she'll come to you.

Answer 9

i say that you start talking to her again and then ask her why she stopped acting/talking/hanging out with you like she use to...just try to make things gradually back to the way they were before... hope this helps
-good luck

Answer 10

UR STARTING THING IS WRONG TOO MUCH SPENDING MEANS UR BUYING HER APPROVAL ... JUST Don't WOORY GO ON IF SHE IS AGREEING GOING FAST IS NO PROB U HAVE TO CHANGE UR ATTITUDE AFTER THIS..REJECCT HER FOR SOME TIME... Don't SHOW SHE IS IMPORTANT FOR U AND.. TRUST ME BY MEAN IT LL SURELY WORK.. SHOW THAT UR NOT CRAP U NEED GOOD BEHAVOIUR FORM HER IF SHE EXPECTS SOMETHING FROM U..