I have a friend who has assumed she is a bridesmaid in my wedding (she is not). What is the best way to deal with this?
2006-12-01 16:58:43 · 8 answers · asked by vailindygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just tell her that you are really sorry but the wedding party has already been set. I know when I got married everyone I knew wanted to be in the wedding party but I just told them that we were going with a small wedding party so I wouldn't be able to have 12 bridesmaids (besides I needed some friends to be sitting in the church not all standing up front with me :o) ). Everyone was pretty understanding. If they are true friends then they realize that sometimes hard decisions have to be made.
Good luck...and remember this is suppose to be a happy time...don't let everyone else stress you out!
2006-12-02 01:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you talk about your wedding planning all the time she may believe that is an indication that you want her in the wedding party.
If your family tradition is to only have family members be bridesmaids, you might mention that.
If you are having other friends as bridesmaids, why not just ask this friend to be one, too? She sounds enthusiastic enough, and you do NOT have to match the number of people on each side-- so what would be the harm?
2006-12-02 13:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with this is to assign her another part in the wedding. Like the Hostess or MC for the reception. A Semi Spot light position maybe even an usher. Tell her she is just as important as a bridesmaid. Then tell her you really need her to do this for you and tell her how happy you would be if she would do it. She maybe upset, but you will have this and many more problems on your wedding day. Trivial things are not to be stressed over. She can do the job or not. Or simply tell her fittings and meeting for that position have been held and she cannot join the party so late.
2006-12-01 19:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by kiev181 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends upon how good a friend she is. Not close then just explain that you could only accomodate so many it the bridal party. If she is a good friend and there really was a good reason for excluding her, give her the explaination and prehaps find another job for her such as take charge of the guest book or hand out programs or something like that. If you really don't care, just tell her that you are sorry but you just could not have everyone in the bridal party and leave it at that.
2006-12-01 17:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a suggestion, type out a bridal list of who's who and who is doing what. Like who the groomsmen and flower girl are, ...ect... And leave it somewhere you are sure she will look.
May sound like the chickens way out, but I don't like conflict and this would be one way to avoid it.
2006-12-01 17:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by lrc125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are talking with her about your upcoming wedding, let her see the list of the bridal party. She will see she is not on the list.
2006-12-01 23:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. Hopefully she will not be rude and ask. If she does ask, honesty is the best policy. Tell her:
1. you're having a small wedding
2. you have family members you are obliged to ask
2006-12-02 10:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a good hit man. I can have her taken out for 2k.
Problem solved.
2006-12-01 23:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Richo Fev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋