one of my close reletives is dying from cancer and I don't even know what to do. I keep thinking the phone is going to ring and say he passed awa. I have faith in my God but if we loose him I don't think i will be able to believe that he/she/it even exists.
2006-12-01 16:51:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I went to see him at the hospital yesterday he was like a little baby sleeping. he's put on the life support system but that might be taken off by tommorow. he's really yellow and his years are really white, as i was told, i couldnt' even stand in the ICU for more than one min. i came out crying and shaking..but I feel little better today....i couldn't seelp last night so this morining i woke up at 5 am and prayed for him for an hour and then went to the temple and pryed for him. at least now, I am starting to have faith in my believe i was soo broken yesterday i didnt' know what to believe in-even the existance of GOD. I didnt' go to the hospital today but i plan to go tommorow after i go to the temple again. Thanks for all of your words, they mean a lot to me. sometimes talking to those we can't see becomes a lot easier than to those whom we can see (crying).
2006-12-02 09:37:14 · update #1
I am going to talk to you from first of knowledge. I have an aunt who has had cancer 6 or 7 times in various areas and stages.
First I want you to know, my mother is a crook and my father abused by bodily for years. So my aunt played a big part in raising me. I want you to understand the importance in her in my life, still yet today.
She is dying. She has had both breasts removed, multiple brain surgerys and other operations to help with this cancer that has invaded her, not to mention the Chemo and other treatments. She is not even 40 years old and has only one son. He is 16 years old. She is divorced and is the sole caretaker for my 69 year old grandmother.
Now then, moving on, and assuming that my pain is as bad as yours, you have to be positive. I am not saying assume he will live or die I am saying live EVERY day as if things were OK. Don't treat him different than you would have. That isn't what a dying person wants. They don't want to be treated as if they are dead. That isn't fair to them OR you!!! You need to have a positive outlook when they don't and smile when they cant. Honey, praying will do your spirit good, but your actions will make it count.
Please feel free to contact me for a support system, and I will lean on you as well.....I wish you the best and baby, please remember this.....If you allow yourself to be weak around the weakest, they will only sense it and be that much weaker......
Hugs and Kisses and Blessings to you and yours and anyone else who may need them......Lissa
2006-12-01 17:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that your loved one is struck with cancer, and may soon pass away. It is difficult to lose someone whom we love.
Nonetheless, life goes on. And, though it is a sorrowful event, God's existence has nothing to do with it. On a cloudy day, we do not see the sun - yet, we know that the sun exists. And, for whatever the reason, if He feels that this is the best time for this to happen, there must be good reasons. Even if we don't understand it now.
They say people typically go through five stages - denial, anger, depression, bargain and acceptance. I hope the acceptance stage comes early to you.
Finally, I am sure your loved one - dying from the cancer - would want you to live happily - not doubt your faith, and live in grief. For his sake - and for yours, do live a purpose filled life. And, through the times of grief, God is the best source of comfort. Do take advantage of it, and cast your grief and anxiety upon Him. He is certain to give you peace.
2006-12-01 17:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Nobodee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God exists whether we want to believe or not. It is better to enjoy what time you have with your relative. People are born and die everyday - this is what life is. Be thankful for the time you have with your relative. Talk to them, learn from them, that will immortalize them on this world and have faith that you will see them in the next.
2006-12-01 16:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by bigej65 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,, but GOD didn't make your relative get cancer , the person needs to be right with GOD when he or she dies . GOD DIDN'T SAY THAT YOU WOULD NEVER DIE he said believe in me & know I am your God , that He has prepare a place for you. Things happen in this wrold , bad things. every day, if they happen to you & you beleave in HIM , THAN HE HAS A PLACE READY FOR YOU , & YOU RELETIVE. to go to. don't be mad at Him .HE'S GETTING THEM OUT OF ALL THAT PAIN , & THEY CAN REST NOW . be happy God has made a place for them.
2006-12-01 17:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by imjudyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend all the time you can with him. Tell him how important he is to you. Do things he enjoys while he still can enjoy them. Take him to his favorite restaurants. Take pictures have get to gethers. My husband passed from lung cancer in June Good luck
2006-12-01 19:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by crumcake422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray for him.go to where he is and pray for him.tell god to let him live.tell god how much you love him or her.tell god that if he or her dosn't get to live well to put him in heaven not go to hell.tell god you are sorry if you did anything bad or this person did something bad.maybe god will let him die for a reson.maybe something else really bad was going to happen to that person.and god didn't let that happen.take my word and pray for him every night every day if you really love that person pray before you do anything before you go to school,eat,work,go to store whatever just keep on praying for him.....well something like that happen to me that person lived.
2006-12-01 17:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by alina_happybunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
last year my mum had breast cancer i lost my sister in law to cancer of the blood my husband to cancer of the pancreas and my dad 3 weeks later to major organ failure. yes i do still believe in god i tell you what i believe which may help you, it did me. we just rent these body's and when its tired warn out sick the body dies and we can go home. its probably silly to other people but i know my dad has gone home and when its my time he'll be there to meet me, put his arms round me tell me how much he has missed me and how much he loves me then in turn it will be my turn to meet someone.
2006-12-03 06:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by tracey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to lose a family member.. so you prayed to god to heal him,, so if he dies you dont no if you belive god exists...well you prayed for god to heal him ....well if he dies he will be cured and well from his cancer....and he wont be in any more pain..and there is nothing else you can do if god decides to take him that was his way of curing him....
2006-12-01 17:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by purple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep praying let god take it in his own hands just take it one day at a time ok everything will be ok in the end :)
2006-12-01 16:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by alive_but_broken17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read about THE FIVE STAGES OF GRIEF everything would be okay.
2006-12-01 16:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Osama bin Laden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋