3FULL TIME STEP KIDS, 2 OF MY OWN A DOG,CAT, AND
2006-12-01 16:46:38 · 10 answers · asked by Crystal D 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Its the other kids driving me crazy demanding everything from me 24/7. There dad is out all the time or sleeping. You just get to the point where ou kow you need a break.
2006-12-01 17:05:50 · update #1
Not to be rude, but I so wish women & men thought about the children before getting married, it is unfair to the children for you to feel that way. Try to get some alone time, maybe you will feel refreshed & ready to get back to being a mommy
2006-12-01 16:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, not to be rude, but I am a stepchild, and you need to remember that you chose to live with the kids. They did not chose to live with you and your children. ( this is ten times as bad if you were the reason for their parent's divorce and they know it, and believe me, children know a LOT more than you think) Suddenly you were there along with two kids taking up all of their father's time. When you married their father, in a sense you were also marrying his kids, too and not just him. I cannot stress enough that you CHOSE this living arrangement when you married their father, and they had no say whatsoever. Just because they are children doesn't mean that they don't have feelings or can't resent you for what happened. Take it from a step kid, if they feel like you ruined their parents marriage, they'll try their best to ruin your life (and trust me, we stepchildren can think of some pretty mean stuff), but you should have known what you were getting into.
2006-12-01 17:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to feel stressed a times..but if it is over powering you all the time..and you always have negative thoughts about your life..your family,,you need to do something quick. Get counselling..rethink your life as it is..not that it is being sucked out of you..but enriched by having a full house with wonderful kids around. Get your husband to plan outings with you and your family..enjoy what you have. I am assuming you knew you would have an extended family...if you always see things as negative..you will be negative in everything and everyday life..Switch your thinking..you are actually very lucky to have so many close to you in your family...you just can't see it thru the dark clouds you have surrounded yourself with.
2006-12-01 16:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless, I would think so. This is a reason why I don't want to have kids. I feel like my life would be sucked out. Of course, just because I don't want it doesn't mean it cannot happen by chance.
2006-12-01 16:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Zeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are putting too much of this blame on to the step kids. Maybe you need to switch things up in your life a bit.
2006-12-01 16:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you obviously CHOSE to marry the step children's father so you brought all of this on yourself. Besides I'd be willing to bet the step kids aren't totally to blame.
2006-12-01 16:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, I have yet to meet a parent who doesn't look as though the life blood's being sucked from their very veins. Sure, they love their children, dote on them, coddle them etc, but once other adults are around, these parents are more than happy to pawn them off onto the unsuspecting adults, while they sit back and take a breather. It's annoying sometimes, but when I see just how drained these parents are...it scares me.
2006-12-01 21:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by olliebee 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that's allot of kids to care for! but, you should have know about this before hand! maybe you just feel overwhelmed by all the kids!! this is normal! i feel the same w/ 3 and 3 cousin of theirs are over!! they take allot out of you!
2006-12-01 16:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by rblankenship_rblankenship 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU REALLY FEEL THIS WAY THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BE MARRIED TO THEIR FATHER!
might be alot of kids to care for, but i have one less than that and a dog and 3 cats plus myself and my husband....
SERIOUSLY
2006-12-01 16:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by Trisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you knew what you were getting into. It is your life until they are grown. Love them all of them and speak sweetly and set the tone by example.
2006-12-01 17:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by onedot.darling 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋