I have horrible self image issues..This guy at work, Matt, I like, and he likes me too, he basically told me. When I look in the mirror, i dont see why he would be attracted to me. I see a fat, ugly, mis-shapen girl. So why do boys like me alot? Wouldnt they rather have the cute girls? I dont want to pursue it with Matt because I feel like im not good enough for him.
2006-12-01 16:31:19 · 42 answers · asked by Sami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to consider some professional help if that is really the way you feel. Obviously this boy sees something he likes and if you can't enjoy that, you are missing out on a big part of life.
2006-12-01 16:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear sami.......if guys fall all over u while u see a "fat,ugly & mis-shapen girl" in your mirror......then u must have a most beautiful personality.....with charm......grace.....n elegance!
We all know beauty is not just the skin that ocvers our face..........its the strong & very pleasant......approachable......considerate..... & compassionate character of a person that attarcts others to her.
Please read one of my Yahoo Answers related to beauty.
I am glad u ask the question.......as I hope what I say gives u your confidence back. What u see in the mirror need not be what others see IN you!
Remember the mirror only gives u an image...... a reflectionof the superficial skin. What other see is the REAL u.......a warm human with a big warm heart........taht rediates warm loving friendliness & care to the people who are touched by you!
You must be a most beautiful person. Take care......n have confidence......my dear!
2006-12-01 16:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never cut your self down like that.. it makes it even harder to get rid of that feeling. and you know i bet matt doesnt see you as a fat, ugly, mis shapen girl.. he probably sees you as a nice person with an awsome personality! you should pursue it with matt also because your both gonna lose if you dont atleast try :)
2006-12-01 16:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have really bad self-image issues too. Especially after seeing a picture of my boyfriend's ex-- She's a total fox! So what is he doing with ME, right? But that's just me and people are so critical of themselves that we really don't see what's actually there, stupid as that may sound. I think you should definitely try it with Matt because there are only so many genuinely good guys out there and if you miss your chance because of something like this, you're really gonna be pissed about it later on!
2006-12-01 16:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honest truth??? You don't see yourself the way others see you. You could be the most beautiful girl in the world, and still see yourself as an ugly duckling. Try picking one thing you like about yourself. Maybe your eyes, the way you look in a certain outfit, a birthmark...anything. And focus on that. And if boys like you alot, you must be nice, attractive, funny and smart. And, guys tend to think being smart, funny and nice are what make girls sexy/pretty.
2006-12-01 16:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop putting your self down, you will never see yourself as others see you. There must be something about you that he truly likes, there is more to a person that looks along, a good kind heart, a great personality, seance of humor, good looks just fade in time and your left with nothing, Your are good enough for Matt, please don't be so hard on your self! we can be are own worst emenys!
2006-12-01 16:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, love your self!
size doesnt matter much in the long scale
personality is what guys really like,
ill tell you this i am no size four and guys seam to like me?
It is how you present your self (are you the shy one, funny one, mysterious one, deep one, smart one, or a combination)
The pretty, skinny, playboy type girls-never have good solid relationships.
Only the guys who look beyond the out side are the ones you should like/date
Matt sound good, respectable
I never liked my square chin and spare tire...I though they defined me
untill i looked past that when i became more alive, and guys seam to like one for that
good luck
2006-12-01 16:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to reassure yourself and raise your self esteem. Jus tknow that you are beautiful and ahve a great personality. If a guy likes you, then there is obviously a reason, so ther eis obviously SOMETHING good about you! And not all guys like skinny girls, trust me. So it doesn't matter if you are fat or whatever, because basically everygirl thinks she is fat and has a low selfesteem! You just gotta reassure yourself!
2006-12-01 16:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by emyloohoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read
Your Erroneous Zones by Dyer
Also do The Forum, a three day one evening intensive offered by Landmark Education Corporation. You'll deal with self esteem there.
2006-12-01 16:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You poor thing! What happened to you? Did you have a bad childhood? Don't you know you are a daughter of God? He wants you to be happy, not miserable. Only Satan wants you to be miserable. What kills me is when you said "So why do boys like me alot" lol... IT AIN'T CAUSE YOUR UGLY! Ok, wait, lets say you ARE ugly. So what? Guys like you so what difference does it make? You need to talk with a counselor. You need to find out why you feel like you do. Life is too short to be miserable.
2006-12-01 16:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋