what do u think if your 47 years old mom wants more kid?

Question

i'm 19 and and my sis is 23.
my mom is considering to have another kid because she thought it would be fun. myself don't want another younger sis or bro. i dont even want to see my mom's pregnant. i can't imagine a newborn baby next year. i just think it's not right.
what should i do?
and what do u think about that??

Answer 1

Perhaps she just enjoys kids and caring for them. Maybe she's bored and wants the activity created by a new child. Whatever her reason, it's hers to make. If it happens be happy for her. It shouldn't have much affect on your life.

Answer 2

Personally this isn't your decision as your mom is obviously a grown women who has every right to have another baby if she personally wants to. If your 19 then it shouldn't affect you very much.

As for you finding this to be negative, your mom might posibly be going through her mid-life crises, as alot of women do. You could go out to lunch with her, or just sit and talk. Bring things up of what you think. She is at an age that Downs Syndrome can occur more so then in other women, also the age she will be when this baby will finally be grown.

Don't be too hard on her though, she may just be looking back and seeing that her girls have grown, and misses the thought of having little ones.

Answer 3

i understand your jealousy but you need to just get over it. it is pretty selfish to put your own feelings and issues before your mothers happiness. now that her daughters are grown she may feel she has the energy to have one more.

many times people feel that they are more financially secure later in life. they are more stable, have more life experiences, and have all the time and love to give to another child.

babies make families grow closer together.

in a few years you may decide to have a child, do you want your mother telling you that she doesn't want you to? she probably cannot imagine her DAUGHTER pregnant.

so, do nothing. it isn't your decision. i think that if she is going to do a good job raising the child, she has a healthy environment to bring it up in go right on! i was raised by my grandparents and they were older and did a GREAT job with us.

my MIL decided to have another child when my husband was 16 and my BIL 14. They were shocked but no big deal!

Answer 4

I think it is up to your mom and you don't really have much say in this. I never had a second or third child and although I could have produced one at 47, didn't want all those long years of commitment or to venture though the teen years again. But it really is a personal thing. You could tell her about how you feel and that is about it.

Answer 5

she sounds like she may be having a mid-life-crisis!! she should be just finishing up the hands-on parenting, not beggining again!! to want a baby because it would be fun is awfull, she will only end up resenting it because shes exhausted and its taking up all her time!!

you must explain this to her!! plus grandkids should be on the way soonish, so she can have fun with them, rather than have to get pregnant, give birth, and then be a parent 24/7 at her age!!

good luck

Answer 6

jeez, ur 19... if ur still at home, then move out. ur mum's obviously thinking about u leaving.
probably the most enjoyable thing she ever did n her life was raise u two kids, and if she wants to do it again, why would u want to stop her?
she sounds like a lovely, caring woman with a lot of love to give. don't be selfish, give her ur full support. that will give her happiness... and hasn't she given u alifetime of happiness???

Answer 7

I think its your mom's decision and not yours. She's not too old and as long as she's willing - she's fine.

And, btw...few children want to share their mom with another sibling. What did your 23 year old sister think when your mom was pregnant with you? Same thing...just a little older.

Answer 8

be firm with her, tell her to snap out of it, tell her to do self developement classes and take Evening Primrose oil with Fish oil.
perhaps the yeast fungus is confusing her brain, tell her not to eat yeast bread or drink beer and to take Olive Leaf.
she may have grandchildren one day, im sure that will be plenty to keep her busy.
she doesnt want to be 60 with a teenager for goodness sake.
if all this doesnt work and she is financially independant, there are thousands of homeless ukraine, african and indian children.
But be strong, tell her you wont stand for it as its too stupid and ridiculous, sorry, but the world is just too cruel.

Answer 9

crazy. tell het to adopt. there are a lot of kids out there that need a good home. or she could foster some kids. i think at her age it would be very dangerous to get pregnant

Answer 10

I think you can express your opinion to your mom, however, it is ultimately her decision. She is a grown women and obviously a very capable mother, she raised the two of you. Good luck and God bless****