he is always saying that i am talking to another guy. i am tired of him saying that cause i am not talking to another boy. i love him to death but after a while of a whole phone conversation and he is mad and not talking i just get mad and fed up. what should i do? i dont want to break up with him either. can someone please help me!!!!!!
2006-12-01 16:16:51 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The one who loves more is a 'slave' to the one who loves less. Sounds as if he doesn't love you the amount you are worth. If he is this bad now, he will prolly only get worse as time goes by.
If you don't want to break up with him, get used to broken bones.
2006-12-01 16:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by reb8_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend obviously has a security or attachment issue, and a control issue, and you two obivously have a very insecure attachment to eachother.
You need to talk to him. Let your BF know that you love him and that you would not cheat on him, but he cannot be so controlling that you can't talk to other guys.The key here is COMMUNICATION and TRUST. Communicate to eachother, and be honest. Also make sure he knows that he can trust you. If you two don't ahve a good base of communication and trust, the relationship will NEVER work because someone will always be insecure and accusing the other person of cheating or lying.
2006-12-01 16:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by emyloohoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen:YOu SHOULD be able to talk to whoever you want. A converstaion, even a male friend IS HEALTHY outside of arelationships. ...this guy is really mentally troubled, and I say this having death with the same types. Love him or not, he'll hire a guard so as not to let you leave the house should you marry, and I'm not kidding. He is extremely insecure, codependent, a control freak, and a crazymaker. Read Stop, You're Driving Me Crazy. Also, very narcissistc. read about clinical narcissism, expecially the type which is malignant.
Lose him fast, before you lose yourself forever.
2006-12-01 16:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you are going with a guy that is the jealous, controlling, insecure type. Bad news for you. If you can't talk to a male anywhere at anytime then you are his slave and property. He owns you. This behavior does not go away and you can not change him. My daughter was dating and eventually married a guy that is exactly like your boyfriend. He even gets jealous of me! And I'm her Dad !!!! This guy will be trouble for you. You won't have any friends. Soon he will be preventing you from talking to girls too! This might sound nuts but it is what will happen. You should look for a guy that is secure enough with himself and your relationship that he does not make ridiculous demands that will shut your life into a little box. Let your girlfriends read this and get their opinion.
2006-12-01 16:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh ya, ouch, what i would say is to stop it all with him. He is jealous for no reason and it will just get worse. I know this must be hard to read but think about it would you rather have a controlling husband one day, that won't let you have guy friends. Or would you rather start fresh?
Take you mind of him for a bit, and dont say you want to broken up but just always say you are always busy. If this makes him explode, leave him. But if he shows possitive emotion and doesn't talk about 'other guys' in his get-back-with-me speech. he will be ok.
Hope I can be of some help
2006-12-01 16:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't believe how you feel about him, nothing is going to change his attitude. He seems to be very controlling and insecure, but that does not give him license to accuse you doing of something that you are not doing. So what if you're talking to another guy. I bet he talks to other girls, so what's fair is fair. Life is with people--it is not a vacuum where interaction between people is controlled.
2006-12-01 16:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
he obviously does'nt't trust u.
If he is accusing u of doing things that u aren't (and your telling the truth) then he doesn't trust you, or maybe he doesn, but he doesn't WANT to.
Tell him that u can't have a relationship without trust. If he says fine whatever and leaves u, U WASTED YOUR TIME WITH HIM! but if he trys to make it work and stays with u, HE MUST LOVE YA!!!
BUT USUALLY...when I guy keeps insisting that u are cheating or whatever..they are worried about getting caught in what they are doing. (if ya know what i mean)
And he is WAYYYY to controlling....u should be able to talk to other guys...it's not like ur having sex!! GEES
*rolls eyes*
2006-12-01 16:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by ~*!!*~Chocolatte Latte~*!!*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to stay with someone that has no trust in you? If I were you, I would be watching for some signs that he may be talking to other girls. A lot of times when you're being accused of cheating, it's because they are cheating. Watch out with this one. If you stay with him, you're going to end up with a broken heart.
2006-12-01 16:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's that insecure, while you're with him, tell him you are going to talk to Ryan on the phone. And then do it. And then tell him if he can't handle you having friends, he better find another girlfriend. Or you can just prolong your pain and suffering and keep doing nothing until it eventually blows over anyway.
2006-12-01 16:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that your bf is just insecure for his own reasons, whether it be a past relationship or not. Talk to him and try to straighten things out, let him now the way he is will not build a healthy relationship. If he's not willing to get his head straight, you must really contemplate and see if he is for you?
2006-12-01 16:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by I answer ur questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋