I am 27 years old and i have been seeing this guy for about 6 mths of months, but we still have not had sex. (FYI I am no virgin) In the beginnning we both had alot of stuff going on in our lives so we decided to take it slow but now I have hinted to him that i am ready but still nothing. We have alot of oportunity to have sex but he says he wants to still take things slow. It has been six months how much slower can we go. I am thinking of calling it quits. YES or NO
2006-12-01 16:12:13 · 20 answers · asked by trini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he may be insecure or have other issues with his sexuality. It's time you have a frank discussion about both of your needs and expectations. My gut feeling is this guy probably isn't a keeper.
2006-12-01 16:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by DarkWolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting him to open up about why he wants to take things so slow. I understand wanting to wait a little while before taking that step, but for crying out loud, I know people who have gotten married after six months!
If you love this guy, then give him the time he needs and do your best to help him through his problems, but he's also gotta be able to be there for you and your needs. I'm not saying that you should give him some sort of ultimatum, like "I need sex or I'm leaving", just try to get to the heart of the problem.
2006-12-01 16:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by randomthoughtpatterns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been physical at all?
There are any number of possible reasons for his not taking it to the next level. He might be inexperienced. He might like spending time with you, but not feel ready for a relationship. He might be seeing or pursuing someone else.
I think you're overdue to stop dropping hints and to just come right out and ask him what's going on. Give him a good long kiss, then follow it up by telling him you'd like to do more.
2006-12-01 16:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you break up with a great, mature guy like that, then your a dumb.as_s slu_t. Is that all you look for in a relationship? Sex? If so, go to a street, ask a guy. I bet 95% of the guys will say yes
2006-12-01 16:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by SpeedySteel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities:
1. You're fun to be with but ugly.
2. He's in the closet.
2006-12-01 16:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by bailey88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing all divorces have in common is no sex in the months (or even years) prior to divorce. What do you think about your situation now?
2006-12-01 16:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah... why not...sounds to me that it's NOW all about sex... you can get sex anywhere, and if that's what's on your mind... then yeah call it quits.... before someone gets hurt... meaning HIM.
he's not ready... he's not ready... he's not ready....,maybe he'll never be ready....contradictory to what every female on the earth thinks... not all guys are into sex .....maybe he's one of them....
obviously you don't love him for who he is. sooo go out and get laid.... you deserve it.... do it and get it over with... it'll probably make you feel worse....but at least you';ll have it off your chest...
good luck to you...
2006-12-01 16:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Traynor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just straight out ask him why you haven't had sex...if you can't communicate with him, then yes-you should call it quits
2006-12-01 16:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by honeyb501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im thinking there must be something wrong with the guy
2006-12-01 16:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by chris f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no maybe you should just ask and find out what the deal is maybe he has a sexual disfunction problem he dont want you to know about
2006-12-01 16:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋