what is it about women to neglect their child to be with a man that don't care about them?

Answer 1

First of all, not all women are like that. There are a lot of women who actually care about their kids and wouldn't put someone before them. Like myself.

Sometimes I think that women who neglect their kids for a man don't have enough respect for themselves or their child and they seem to forget that they were given the responsibility to care for their child when they carried the child in their stomach and gave birth.

Responsibility doesn't end there. It's a never-ending thing. This is something that hits hard at home with me because I was adopted and my biological parents were neglectful parents who cared less what happened to my siblings and I. They took money the state gave to help us kids out and spent it on themselves. They wouldn't feed us unless us kids helped each other out.

For someone to neglect their child just because they feel they want a life again or desires to be met, is totally wrong. Why make your child fend for themselves and leave them when they need you the most.

In some cases however, women may not think clearly due to the state of fear or bad decisions they have made. I know some who have made bad decisions in the past and have had kids and therefore lost them to the state due to neglecting them.

I would say if you know someone personally who has or is doing this and you fear the child may be in danger because he/she isn't properly being taken care of, then I would call DFS. It's never easy for someone to do it, but if someone had done it earlier before I was adopted, I may still have my little sister alive.

Answer 2

These women are very needy indeed and do not have their children's best interests in mind. In such a case, the woman should seek counseling or talk to someone who is a fine example of parenting. Children always come first! Many women have children too early in life or are unprepared for parenthood if they are teen mothers. It must be stressed that no matter how they came to motherhood, they must put childhood behind them, and grow up very fast! Hospital and community centers have parenting classes and mentors. Contacting United Way, will also lead to help and free parenting classes. If the child becomes neglected, they will be taken away by social services! Do not let it go this far, if it can be helped because most children would rather be with their own parent.

Answer 3

Your question is the same as why do people take drugs or become alcoholics.
Its human behavior.

Lets not forget that besides being mothers, there woman are in fact woman. And people for that matter. Everyone needs companion ship, and just like the drug user or heavy drinker, these woman have a need to escape their reality.

Now, its easy to classify them as needy, ignorant or the other names but its a variety of reasons why a mother would do such a thing. Too many to count, and although it might appear these woman are the worst of the worst people for neglecting the precious little Blessings they've been given, try to understand that theres human beings with feelings and insecurities within these mothers.

When you realize that, youll be on your way to understanding or trying to comprehend the underlying circumstances that cause such a behavior.
Until then, dont condemn another person until youve walked in their shoes.

My two cents on the matter

Answer 4

Well, I think it has something to do with the lady thinking she is not worthy of anyone better and she doesn't want to be alone...
My sister for instance..she has 5 children, she has 2 children with my husbands cousin who treats her like she doesn't exist ...you know until he wants "something" from her..
About 5 years ago she had, at this time, only 3 children..he told her that if she wanted to go live with him , she could only take one child.. and do you know that she chose to leave the youngest with her father, the oldest with her father and the middle child with me.. taking none..Now, she acts all, " I love my children so much.. I want them all to live with me" But by "them all" she means the two she has with her dude.I don't know.. she has 5 children by 4 fathers..she has in her custody , one of the children not belonging to him and he treats that child like pure crap.. I am in the process of trying to gain custody of the child ..my sister left him for 2 days and went right back to him ..even after he told her he was seeing other women..not just another woman but yeah, the plural..such a retard she is.I have tried to help her but she insists she loves him..oh well.. she loved the other 50 guys she was with before him too. Let me just say , it was a family affair for a while.She was hopping from each of my husbands cousins..a week she would be with so and so and then the next week another cousin.The all lived in the same house and there were 4 of them.I wonder if they compared notes..hmmm..anyway, either they are very afraid of being alone, have low self esteem or.. like my sister..well, I have no clue what my sister is like..I believe the correct decription would be that,she is " cold hearted, undeserving of the love a child can have for their parents, whorish, lazy, filthy, ..which by the way, is true..., careless, irresponsible, cowardly, ignorant , pathetic excuse for a mother." But that's just me.. I should be ashamed of myself..she is still my sister after all..I would suggest trying to get her help but , if this person you speak of is like my sister, she won't accept it cause she will insist that everything you are saying is untrue and you are just being spiteful. It's sad that she has no friends and I mean, not even one..and it is all because of the guy she is with and the way she treats her kids. My husband won't even have anything to do with her or his own cousin because of this..it's a sad situation actually, for the children.

Answer 5

I could never imagine leaving or neglecting my children for ANYONE! Doesn't matter who it is. I don't understand what some peoples problems are. I suppose they are selfish.
People need to understand that children are precious, and that they didn't choose to be here. They need to grow up and take responsibility for their actions and stop acting like little teeny-boppers!

Answer 6

I don't know. It's really sad. My cousin is five. His mother hasn't seen him in about two years. It's just sad that she's rather be doing cocaine with her "loving" boyfriend who beats her then being a mother.

I'm very fortunate to have him in my life but I just wish she'd straighten up his act before it's too late.

Answer 7

they are inappropriate mothers because they left their children with a man that could neglect/hurt them

Answer 8

they have mental issues. most likely daddy issues. and most definatley selfish. send the mom to therapy and get the child out of the house before the situation worsens.

Answer 9

I think it is because these parents are thinking of there own needs rather than the needs of there children.

Answer 10

DARN YOU READ MY MIND. My sister is just like that, she doesn't deserve to even breath clean air. She is such a bad mother, and she ditches her kids to just have someone to have sex with. Her children are going to hate her