Do parents really love their children?

Question

I'm not sure. Do parents care about their kids feelings? Do they mind if their kids are happy or sad? At 14, I'm not sure at
all.

Answer 1

Sheyla,

Your parents are stressed out, it's hard to be an adult/parent/breadwinner. Having so much responsibility. They have a mortgage/ car note and a million bills piling up. I was just like you my mom never cared for me, she just spent alot of money on antique crap, and her house is full of crap. Expensive crap. I always wanted to paint my room, and I wanted pink, she bought a hideous blue. My mom stayed at home and watched t.v. all the time. Sweetheart, you have to make your own happiness, I tried to do it for me, and it helped me get through the loneliness

Answer 2

Unfortunately not all parents care for their children on every level. Those parents shouldn't have children.

In general terms of selfishness it is hard to say why a person that births another couldn't "love" or nurture their own likeness or genetic part simply out of concern.

On the level of Mother/Fatherhood it happens way too often.

Not all parents are like that Honey. Most (I hope) love their children without question. But yes, some parents don't love their own children.

I have 2 children that I birthed, and an adopted daughter that is now 15. I adopted her when she was 11. She is not related to me but I love her as much as I do the other 2.

A "true" parent does and should care about the feelings of their children no matter how old the child gets. And 14 is certainly still a child in the eyes of a parent.

And if by chance YOU are the parent in question? Just a thought here, I may be wrong and I apologize for the assumption. At 14 YOU are the child, to take on the responsibility of a child can be over-whelming. It doesn't mean you don't love the child. It may mean you don't know how to "raise" a child.

Good luck in either situation.................

Answer 3

Absolutely, although it's easy to forget the depth of feeling children have. My kids are little tiny (10 months and two and a half years) and sometimes the smallest thing sets them off. I put a pair of shoes on my daughter when she wanted to wear a different pair, for instance. It's such an unimportant thing..... to me, at least. But to her, it's THE MOST important thing ever, causing a total hysterical meltdown. Truly, I care about her feelings and I hate to see her sad, but her behavior totally baffles me.

I think it's similar with parents of teenagers. It's hard to remember back to high school and see how the things adults don't think are so important may have the power to devastate their kids.

Try to be patient with your parents. They do adore you and want you to be happy, but sometimes they just can't make you happy, or they don't get what is making you so sad.

Answer 4

YES! Well, I love mine more than anything in this world. When you get older and have kids, you realize that sometimes a parent has to show you tough love. At the time you may not feel loved, but tough love is the greatest thing a parent can give you. It's hurts so bad as a parent to discipline your child, or to let them make their own mistakes. But as your children grow, you realize that it is neccesary. Your parents LOVE you, I am sure, you just may have to get a little older to see all the love in their actions.

Answer 5

I love my children with everything that i am made out of. I think that at your age, it does feel that they don't sometimes because of the decisions that they make on your behalf. And its NOT because your not loved or cared for, they just have your best interest at heart and in the long run you will see that. I know I was once there myself, now looking back i have no doubt that the things my parents did were done out of love.

Hang in there things will get better. And I know it seems silly, and at 14 you really don't want to, but talk to your parents about your feelings... it will make you closer.

Your feelings are important, its just that sometimes, parents know best. I can't count how many times that my parents were right about something that I just swore they wanted to ruin my life.

Answer 6

Most parents absolutely love their children. I love my son with every fiber of my being and I can barely remember what my house was like without him here. I know sometimes it may seem like your parents don't care, but you are at a hard age for all of you. You are growing up and struggling for more independence, while they are still trying to protect you because you are their "little girl". It is hard for both sides to understand. They love you so much, but they are always on guard trying to protect you and constantly worrying that they are raising you right, that sometimes the actual expression of love is not so easy to see. It usually helps if you can have an open, honest relationship with more communication. Sometimes each side will have to stop and think about what it is like to walk in each others shoes. Talk to them about how you feel and see if you can grow a new relationship with them. It is much easier to talk to them when you know there is mutual trust.

Answer 7

Parents, at least most parents, absolutely do care about their kids feelings, and whether or not they are happy or sad. But they also have to look at the long term, and if they determine that making a decision that they make is better for you in the long run, although you aren't happy with it now, they will still make it.

Answer 8

Your parents are probably wondering the same thing about you.. Trust me your parents love you so much that even if they don't say it all the time they would be lost without you! They care they probably don't know how to express it.. Trust me.. Me and my parents at 14 didnt get along but now i am very close to them.. They will always love you and they care more than you will ever know!

Answer 9

I really think that 99% of parents love their children very much--even bad parents. Bad parents do bad things because they have their own personal problems and demons not usually because, at heart, they do not love their children.

Then there is the problem we all make mistakes. And sometimes we are selfish. And some times even do bad things.

But in the end almost all of us try the very best we can to do the best we can because we do love you. But please try to remeber we are human and have faults and do not always do the right or best thing.

Answer 10

Yes, it is unreal how much a parent loves a child, something you will never fully understand until you have children. You are at a age where you are questioning alot and asking for your own space, just give mom or dad a que that you need a bit more attention or love.

Answer 11

At 14 Im sure you parents love you, now even more that you are experiencing such a difficult age. Some parents dont show affection, but that doesnt mean they dont love you or care about you. :)