me and my girlfriend have been going out for 5 months but is time to move on and change where i live, the only way to take her is to get merried. the problem is that im not sure if i want to leave her behind or make her my wife and take her with me. she is great but we are too diferent and i dont want to find out that i did the wrong thing 2-3 years from now with a kid. just like my perents!
2006-12-01 15:21:34 · 14 answers · asked by arthur4881 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whoaaa if you have any doubt at all then don't think that your only choice is to get married.
2006-12-01 15:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by JA+JH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY time you should marry is when you can honestly say to yourself "I cannot see me having as fulfilling a life without this person in it". If you are questioning things after only 5 months you would be making a huge mistake in marrying her. After five months the newness and the romance should still be there. You seem to be having very big doubts in such a short time. Maybe she is great....but just not great "for you". In any case, it is better to wait more than five months to marry anyways. People do not even begin to know eachother on a deep level in that time. Many are still putting their best foot forward. Trials in life that can make or break a relationship have not been given time to happen yet to see if these tests are something that can be weathered. Move and let her stay behind. She can always visit. If she visits for periods of time and you find that you are growing more attached to her you can make a life altering decision such as marriage at a later date. Good luck!
2006-12-01 23:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My perents got merried when I was just yong so I dont remeber it very well but I can tell u that if you dont love her then you will no. so why not just take her to their and wait and see for awhile untill you get your place setled? even if you find out from this kid in 2-3 years that merried is not the life you shood have then it will be OK. Hope this helpS!!
2006-12-01 23:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sate H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry her just because thats the only reason you'll be able to take her with you! you should marry her if you truly love her. if theres no other reason to leave her other than you having to move, stay in the relationship and see how things work out. it's a lot better to figure out she's not right for you when you're in different locations than when you're already married and have to get divorced.
2006-12-01 23:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by abcdefg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good thing going with your girlfriend. You should be able to discuss with her your plans to move. You don't have to get married, I'm sure there are other alternatives. You're rushing into things. Take your time to think these things through. Is she pregnant?
2006-12-01 23:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by MaTriX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts at all then she probably isn't the one for you, but if you really feel she is, ask if she will go with you. If she says no then she doesn't love you enough to follow you. If she says yes, live with her for a while to See if you guys are truly meant for each other. By then there will be no doubt in your mind. Good Luck!!!! =)
2006-12-01 23:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by yomonkeysdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
If you really love her than take her with you. But you seem to be hesitant which means, you may not be ready to make that kind of committment, maybe if you move away you will miss her and then decided to marry her. Or who knows maybe you will meet some one new.
2006-12-01 23:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by Imagine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the "kid" thing is up to you depending how you handle yourself truthfully...but differences can be strengths...take me an my wife for example...she is from a different part of the world than I am...but we survive...and we have a child who excels in everything...smartest, fastest, toughest kid in the school...people would do well to have a child such as ours...and I'm not being boastful or bragadeerish...he really is all those things lol...differences can make you stronger..
2006-12-01 23:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! If you aren't completely totally sure you love her she'sgonna have to stay! Please take my advice and leave it for later you have to have been dating for a year atleast! I really really think NO is your answer listen to what I said you don't want to go through a devorce if she's not for you!
2006-12-01 23:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Pumpkin Headed Murderer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dou have to change where you live? well don't rush into anything! if u love her that much take her along iwth you. or give her some kind of love test...yeah a test of love..
2006-12-01 23:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by san francisco grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋