This is my 1st time and i feel this girl is the "1"...What do i do and say?

Question

ok this is how it goes .
I enroll to this school and it is my 1st and last yr. there and this specail someone. I liked her since i got to know her, at that time she had a b/f which later i came to find out that it wasn't working out with her b/f so she asked me my opionion on rather she should take her b/f to the homecoming dance. I told her not if he was treating her badly , but if she justed wanted to go without him then that would not be very nice. So a few days go by and here comes a football game and i go since i have nothing better to do and guess what i see her there . I didn't approach her bcause i didn't know if her b/f was there but towards the end of the game i seen her talking to her what i found out was her b/f and i knew that something wrong was up . So what happens they brake up and i went up to her and asked her a question (If she would save me a dance for the dance). She didn't reply and so i started to send her e-mails,chat messages and stuff to get to know her.(pt.2

This was during the time that she was going throught the breakdowns and i was telling her my feelings for her..(I felt her pain when that happened(as if i was her)) and soon enough she told the officer @ our school and i talked to ...blah blah blah anyway now we are what i think is friends i talk to her at school like everyday and she is the only person that makes me fell like myself. and she did a bulletin on myspace which i am one of her friends and it was basicly saying that she was single and she had the :( face and i was wondering what i should do to get this girl. I told this girl i liked her already and i don't know if she likes me at all cause she does talk to me but she never calls me even tho i gave her my # , and just recently she got in an accident and i told her the basic hope ya get better and all and i think that made her feel a little better . (during that time that i was sending her the messages b4 the meeting with the officer i found out she was ignoring me) . (pt 3 )

So what i would like to know is if she likes me even a little bit. Also what can i do to get her to notice me and to like me.

I would take a shotgun shell to my heart for this girl.

I swear I'm in love.

Ps. she is 2 yrs. younger than me.
We have common intrestes.

Please E-mail me with any information on what I should do and what i should say to get this girl.

I would do anything except 2 things for this girl.

1) Kill myself
2) Kill another person

I'm sorry i mixed a few things up the accident happened after the talk and the deal with the messages.

I know some of the stuff that i did like asking her for that dance after she broke up with her x b/f and when i went to dance with her and i asked her for the dance which was towards the end of the dance time she said she was thirsty (she was wearing braces @ this time) and i watched her walk away with her friend that she danced with and she smiled so i figured she lied to me.

The time with the messages and all i told her to tell me ther truth that if she didn't want to talk to me then just tell me and i would leave her alone , but she didn't and that is what pissed me off the most.
I tell the honest to gods truth.

Give me this girl or hand me a shotgun and a shotgun shell.

Answer 1

Hm... long question here... but I can tell you're feeling bad and I'll try to answer it- all these mean people haven't even tried. First of all, that is great that you wouldn't kill yourself or another person for her. That's NOT true love. (Please take away your last addition of "give me a gun"- that's not so good...) I think right now she needs and enjoys your support as she's probably really going through a breakup and feels bad. She wants you to keep comforting her, which is why she hasn't sent you away- but she's not ready for love again yet. Be patient- patience will win her over. Send her sweet messages every day or two that say things like hey I'm your friend here if you ever need me I've noticed you seem kind of quiet lately, and leave little pieces of candy or a flower on her desk, and don't be pusy- patience is the best. As far as making her like you- unfortunately, you can't. Only time will tell, and in the mean time being patient and friendly and gentlemanly is your best bet. Also- I know we never want to hear this, but I have to say it- sometimes we don't really know we're in love or not. I thought I was about two years ago- and then I met someone else a year and a half ago and now I really believe he's the right one. So you never can tell.

If you want to be a little more forward and try and get an answer sooner, you could say firmly and kindly, looking her in the eyes, "hey, I don't want to be an annoying geek, I'd really like to be your friend- would you mind just telling me, please, if you want me to stop talking to you?" If she says no, take it from there and ask her if she wants to hang out with your friends sometime. If she says yes, tell her, "OK, no hard feelings, but I'm always willing again if you ever want somebody to talk to or understand you".

However, if you're afraid that the truth might not be that she doesn't like you, it's way better to try the patient method- it's easier to let love die away slowly than give it a big sudden kick.

Always try to be the best that you can be for the love of this girl, and you will still come out on top even if she's not the right one.

Please email me and give me more details and update me on what you've decided to do.

:o)