I'm having a problem with child support allotments & can't seem to get a lawyer to listen to me. My husband is in the national guard & I have power of Attorney over him when he is deployed. Now here is the situation:The amount he is to pay each month is $600, & $300 when they are w/ us along w/75% of bills. (To make it easier we still pay $600) Not a problem normally, but when he is deployed (as he is now & for another 6 months +/-) he only gets his guard pay which is less than 1/2 of his normal pay & his civilian job won't pay the 6 month difference until he gets back. We don't have enough money to cover the $600 & keep our residence only $350. Birth Mom was notified. She had said that the extra $ given during the past 3 yrs when we've had the kids was put into an account for emergencies ($3600.) There has been none that we haven't paid for.But now it is gone. She is demanding the $250 & is trying to have our accounts seized. Suggestions? I work fulltime & have 2 kids of my own.
2006-12-01 15:17:32 · 9 answers · asked by speranzacampbell 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The steps are on our insurance, we pay $500 a year for clothes & toys. We have records of the amounts we entered into the emergency account, along with records of all medical bills that went to the insurance, along with how much we paid. (Most of the time she only had to pay the co-pay). We have up-to-date copies of the medical records & there are no entries from other doctors not on our policy. We have kept all of the slips from the clothes & gifts. I also have signed paperwork from his civilian boss outlining the deployment payment system, and the one from the guard stating his pay, which I have sent copies to the birthmom. She doesn't care & keeps harrassing me. My two are not related to them & are my soul responsibility. (life insurance allotment has run out).
2006-12-01 15:28:58 · update #1
I don't understand is where the money in the account has gone. It was set up for emergencys like hospital & deployment.(Noterized) Since we know (& have proof) about how much was put in ($1,200 for each summer we've had the kids-3=$3600 + interest)) and only $75 was pulled out for a dentist bill for the steps last year. There should be $3525 left. But when I went to the bank to transfer the remaining amount owed for child support I found out the account only had $100. My name is not on the account so I'm waiting for the POA to be sent to the appropiate channels before the can send me info. I've pulled up the paperwork on our side- money has gone in & we have taken none out. BM won't talk to me about it-keeps hanging up. There would have been plenty to cover the payments in there ($1,500) it just would have arrived in two payments on one day. I'm being harassed by her, her family & the Friends of the Court-none of who are listening to me. I'm talking with a lawyer-again this week. Why
2006-12-03 02:13:50 · update #2
should we be punished if BM is the one squandering the money? Oddly enough at this time we are still paying more than the percentage of income that the courts require one to pay in this state. On yes and she & her husband work full-time and own their own house. So it is not like they are hurting. And we have no problem paying it back once he returns, BUT now she won't let me speak with the kids, nor will we see them this year because he will still be deployed during spring holiday & part of summer. Some how this doesn't seem fair to any of us.
2006-12-03 02:18:19 · update #3
Geez i feel the pain, i pay 450 a month for childsupport for one kid. its dificult when you try to do the right thing and other just try to screw you! the only thing you can do is get a lawyer and see what he says!
2006-12-01 15:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by hondalos11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but you screwed yourself when you gave her that $600 (and I'm an NCP, so I really have sympathy for you) when you didn't have to. The law, in as enlightened as it is and I say this with my tongue straight through my cheek, treats any amounts over the child support as "gifts" for the children, so really, she doesn't have to claim any sort of credit for that money for the father. What I would try to do is hopefully work with the mother that this is not a situation where you are deliberately keeping the money from her And in the future, from what you have said, when the children are there set the money aside in an account for such emergencies.
I think she can put a lien on those accounts if they are in his name, so put any money in accounts in your name, try to work with her, and don't trust a CP with accounting, it's kind of like trusting an alcoholic with the bar.
2006-12-05 13:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by John F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she probably could take him to court but since he is overseas, they probably wouldnt make him do anything until he returns. if he was a civilian they would put him in jail but since hes fighting for his country its a whole different story. she cant go after you so you might not have to worry to much until he gets back. and then they should give him some time to come up with the money. and since he is making less money, you can go to the family court and they should lower the child support. its based on your income. at least in south carolina it is
2006-12-01 15:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest calling you local child support enforcement agencies. The thing about getting an attorney is your paying out extra money that you could have put toward the child support. Like I said call you child support enforcement and see what they suggest
2006-12-01 15:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by Tyetta P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney. Can the Guard help with finding one?
2006-12-01 15:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relations are more valuable then money, if you have no money but have good relationship you have everything , but don't have good relationship, you have nothing, so when finding good relation do not think about money, even you pay at the place where you will get.
2006-12-04 02:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by MehdiAli 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she cant have your accounts seized, whats up with that? the only thing the law can do is garnish his check, which they wont while he is deployed, so tell her to phuck off
2006-12-01 15:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to go back to court and get a child support modification
2006-12-01 15:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by olivia z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go engage a good lawyer
2006-12-01 15:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋