who are perfect gentlemen towards them?Where do you draw the line between being respectful towards a woman and not trusting her?
2006-12-01 15:14:26 · 16 answers · asked by Charles R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, don't be a doormat, but yes be a gentleman and be respectful. If a woman is being rude to you when you are treating her right, then she probably isn't the woman for you.
2006-12-01 15:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't even bother with men who act like "perfect gentlemen." I have no patience for chivalry. It's kind of hard to have patience for something that died forty years ago, courtesy of the feminist movement. I would rather have a relationship where the guy and I use each other for one thing. (Guess what.) That's all I want from a guy, anyway.
2006-12-02 00:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I wish I knew the answer to that. All of my exes have either cheated, been abusive, or just a down right jerk. My current boyfriend however is always nice and respectful, but I find myself being mean to him for it. It doesn't make sense why I always seem to fall for the bad guys and treat the good one like crap. I think it might be bc I feel the good guy will let me down unexpectedly, whereas I know in advance that the piece of crap guy will inevitably hurt me. It is a sad cycle, but I know I am not the only one. Keep on being a good guy and have patience with girls.... they could be TRYING to be better people.
2006-12-01 23:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think women generally use men.
I am not a man, but I think women draw the line from being respectful to men and not trusting them when there is reason to do so.....I will trust any guy until he gives me a reason not to have my trust. I think if there is any reason or doubt about trusting anyone, one should steer away.
2006-12-01 23:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by lady bird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the woman and yes, unfortuanately some do. You can always act respectful and civil toward them and that doesn't mean you have to be a door mat. Make a decision about the woman, and if she isn't right for you respectfully (and as kind as possible) break it off.
2006-12-01 23:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should think about how many times you're willing to pay for the entire date yourself before you ask her if she'll go dutch or pay every other time.
There's a famous radio talk show host that says you should never spend more than $40 on a date. I think that's a bit low, but either way, you should think these things through.
There actually are some women who will go out with you just to get a free meal. They're like dinner whores, but without the whore part.
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2006-12-01 23:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Good Times, Happy Times... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question. Im married now but when i was dating around and if i knew that a guy liked me but i didn't like him i would deffinitly use him to get things that i wanted but couldn't afford at the time. My car was broke down so i used this guy that i knew really like me to shofer me all around town. Also i would use guys to get me drunk, buy me smokes and even clothes, jewelry. Guys are like that though. They set themselves up to be used and abused. But Girls get used too. It goes both ways. Use your best judgement, if you can tell that a girl only wants to be "friends" but won't give you anything else but just that, Your being used. If it's a regular thing that she never has money but she wants you to buy all the time and always needs something from you but you never get anything in return, Your being used. Another major sign also is, If like when your hanging out and you wanna just hang out and mabey watch tv or something, that girl that mabey using you will be mad because it's not something that is costing money. She only wants to do things with you if it costs you money. Because that's what she is in it for, Right??? Well, i hope all that helps.
Good Luck!
p.s. Next time if she askes you to buy her something or you buy at the movies or something, say that you don't have any money or you can't buy everytime and then you'll know for sure then if she is using you because she will stop coming around then. I promise you, that will work.
2006-12-01 23:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by I love my kids! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should trust until she gives you a reason not to.
Some women use men no matter how great they are. It's the way life is. But some men use great girls too...
Some girls feel men have had "the power" too long...and maybe they have! lol! Cheating/or whatever...can be like a girl 'flexing' her muscle.
2006-12-01 23:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by javaluv2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A woman can only use a man that allows himself to be used.
2006-12-01 23:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of the times it starts of as a guy gives us something and were like..how sweet! but then the guy continue to do more things without us asking and we kind of just get used to it and basically it just turns into we know we could get it so might as well ask for it
2006-12-01 23:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by LATIN MOCHA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋