How do you know when you have truly forgiven someone for wronging and hurting you? Do you think we can ever truly forgive? Does forgiving mean forgetting?
2006-12-01 15:08:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Forgiving does not mean forgetting. It is not easy to forget, but you can over time. Time heals all wounds.
2006-12-01 15:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can return to a "normal" relationship with someone then you have truly forgiven. I don't think you ever forget, but it does mean that you move past whatever the issue was. People can truly forgive. It's hard, but certainly possible.
2006-12-01 15:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Greenwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know you have truly forgiven someone whenever you are able to not feel ugly toward this person. sometimes, when someone hurts you over and over, you have to reach a point where you may have to limit communication with this person-but you can still forgive them. you will know if you have forgiven them because you will feel at peace when you talk about them. i dont think forgiving means fogetting because sometimes, the hurt you feel was to deep to forget about it but after you forgive someone you should be able to see it as a time this person messed up and you realize that everyone makes mistakes. hope this answered your questions...
2006-12-01 15:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by shoegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving does not mean forgetting...you can't forget something that was painful...You can choose to forgive...forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. You can choose not to let anothers actions be an anchor around your neck...you can choose to not let anothers actions influence how you to act in return. It is a process of letting the feeling go...eventually, when you give it to God enough, with His help you can let it go...where it has no more hold on you. But forget?...I think it is wise to be aware of who has hurt you...and not make yourself so open and vulnerable to them...A good way to know if you have forgiven....would you help them if they needed help?...If your answer is yes, then I think you are okay...that doesn't mean you have to be best buds...just depends.
2006-12-01 15:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell something very honest.... Of course forgiving a person does exist, but only happens when that person's REPAIR actions are more than your bad memories .... The best way is to look at that person and look deeply at her/his eyes and try to search inside for the truth you r looking for.... you will see a reaction, and probably want to hug you or tell you something, at this point if you stay relax without saying a word that person is finding or hoping a real forgiveness..... Try it out..... I did it a couple of times and you can sleep nice again, also that person. Alx
2006-12-01 15:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by ALX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgetting and forgiving are tow different things. when you forgive you no longer feel anger over what that person did.
I know I will forgive someone who hurt me later- right now I am too angry- but I also know I will never forget and never be clsoe with that person again b/c there is no trust.
2006-12-01 15:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says, "in the way that you forgive others your Father in heaven will also for give you." So if you say I'll forgive them, but I'm never going to talk to them again, then that is what God says. If you say I'll forgive you but I'll remember it until the day I die, tehn that is what God will do. Think about it, how do you want God to forgive you.
Matthew 18:32 "Then summoning him, his lord said to him, `You wicked slave, I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. 33 `Should you not also have had mercy on your fellow slave, in the same way that I had mercy on you?' 34 "And his lord, moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers until he should repay all that was owed him. 35 "My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart."
2006-12-01 15:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is different to forgetting. Keep that in mind!
2006-12-01 15:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by cyberbob2or12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiving means forgetting and moving on. If you still think about it sometimes, especially when your with that person, then you might of forgivin them but you still havent forgotten what they said or did. You should tell them the truth or hide your feelings for ever!
2006-12-01 15:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by hate school, love Dog Whisperer! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True forgiveness is the realization that the error never existed outside of the mind that thought that it was real.
Love and blessings Don
2006-12-01 15:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋