Hmmm...Well from reading your post, it's in your opinion that this guy is a "moron". However, for some reason, she doesn't see it that way. There's not much you can do, for if this guy really is a "moron" then she'll have to see it for herself. Trying to force her to see it can and will most likely backfire on you.
But it does seem that she got engaged rather quickly.
2006-12-01 14:58:58
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answered by pyroreview 1
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Be a good friend. Listen when she needs to talk. Don't confront or attack her fiancee. She could pull away from you which would be worse. At least this way if she is having some doubts, you are still there to listen and support her. Are there other people that have said anything to her about the fiancee since you mention her mom?
You are in a really delicate and tough situation. It is hard to realize that you care for someone more than the deep friendship and not be able to tell them. Good luck - hopefully she will see what others see in him and not get married.
2006-12-01 15:01:20
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answered by Margaret K 3
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She's your friend, so tell her what you think. It will be important to her. However, don't tell her that you "might" feel something for her. You do or you don't. Until you're sure one way of the other, telling her you "might" isn't a good idea.
Expressing your doubts about a guy she chooses to spend her time with perfectly fine since she considers you a friend. There's a wrong way to do it, though. Open the door for that conversation to start from her end, then keep it going yourself. If you come right out and say the guy she is choosing to spend time with is a bum, she could get defensive, which would be counterproductive for what you're wanting to do.
2006-12-01 15:11:21
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answered by Venzen 1
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Manage one thing at a time.
As a friend if you really care for her, then you should voice out your concern about the guy to her as marriage is a big responsibility. If she is unsure then one should not pursue.
Let her make her own decision.
As for your love to her this is a different subject so do not tell her everything at one time as this will only confuse the issue. She might think you are trying to spike her guy as you have fallen for her. One she has decided on item one, then give her some breathing space and tell her how you feel about her.
Good luck.
2006-12-01 15:00:10
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answered by Rosy 3
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I think you should have done something before she had gotten really serious with this guy. However you should just tell her how you feel now!!! Don't waste time and tell her YOU LIKE HER!! Who knows she could feel the same way. But then again it could not always work out. Good luck to you and let me know how it goes because I want to see what she says!! The next time you see her tell her right then and there before she is walking down that aisle!! Good luck to you!!!
2006-12-01 15:00:56
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answered by Anonymous
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I hate to say this but you are probably going to have to let this run its course. Any interference in this new relationship from you will probably blow up in your face. Example "it might have worked if you'd been more supportive" or "he left me because my friends were mean to him". If he is not the guy for her she'll figure it out on her own. I really recommend that you not put yourself in a place to become the rebound guy when/if she breaks up with him. Also explore your feelings sometimes people look more attractive when they're with someone else. Give this time, sorry I know it sucks.
2006-12-01 15:02:11
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answered by alltheanswers 3
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You should tell her the truth about the guy she is dating and also tell her how much you feel about her otherwise you might never find someone like her. If you let her date this guy he could destroy her life and you might feel responsible for it in the future. Why not tell about your feelings when she will have a much better life with you than him.
Good Luck
God Bless You
2006-12-01 14:58:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Talk to her before it is too late and she is married. Maybe she feels the same way, but is scared to tell you. You just might want to leave out the part where you call her fiancee an idiot. : )
Good luck I hope it works out for you.
2006-12-01 14:57:56
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answered by r_finewood 4
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TELL HER! We have all made the I should have when I could have mistake, and we all regret it, but her getting married is a do -it-as- soon-as-you-can thing! Even if it turns out bad, she'll know and she'll have the choice and you'll know that you did everything you could to get her. Good Luck!!
2006-12-01 14:58:00
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answered by ragewilted 1
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Just try to talk to her at first about the guy. Maybe if you tell her that now one else but her likes him she will agree but you could also just tell her how you feel about her and tell her that this isnt the guy for her and try to make it work.
Good luck!
2006-12-01 14:59:26
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answered by me_yes_me5 2
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