I need a mothers prospective?

Question

5 years ago my aunt passed away, and her daughter had just gave birth to a baby boy. I think at the time we wanted to stop being sad and turned all our attention on the baby especially my mom. She keeps him every saturday night, and now that she has had another baby she goes over to there house all the time and I have been in my house for a year and she has been here 4 times. Also I have a step daughter who has lived with us for 4 years and is her grandaughter and just a month ago was the first time she ever spent the night. I understand wanting to help with your sisters kids, but has it went overboard?

Answer 1

I think you are right and that your mother is probably trying to assage some sort of guilt feelings by lavishing attention on her grand nephew. There is little you can really do except to start inviting your mother over to your house on a regular basis, talk up your stepdaughter with her, and tell her you are concerned that she might be extending herself with caring for her own child and her grand nephew. What does your cousin think of all this? Do NOT try to force your mother to quit dotting on the child, simply start offering her attractive alternatives that gets her to focus her attention on her own child and grandchild.

Answer 2

I don't know, but I do know that my Sunts did the samething when thier sister passed and my cousin had a baby recently. I think it has to do with guilt. MAybe your mom and her sister had a falling out some time ago and never really got over it and she is trying (a bit too hard) to make up for it in some small way in her heart. Talk to her about it, make your consern known and then leave the decision to her. whatever the outcome, support her and just spend YOUR time with her granddaughter.... giving new babies love early is important.

Answer 3

She needs to do what ever keeps her happy, but if it bothers you that she doesn't spend time with your step daught try bringing her over to she her