My three-year boyfriend and I have broken up for more than a year. We got separated and now things kinda getting back to normal, (i mean we're already in speaking terms with each other and we're kinda building on a good friendship). He was the one who broke up with me. He was on and off getting back at me when we broke up but I refused because i thought he wasnt ready. Lately I got sick and I nearly died, after that he hasnt stopped visiting me, calling me, and no amount of NO could shooo him away from me. I told him I don't want anything serious with him anymore but he still said he'd try anyway. I still have feelings for him but I'm too scared to get into the relationship. He asked me if we could get married after i graduate from college so he could bring me to another country where he plans to work, i was caught off guard because we're not even back to boyfriend-girlfriend mode yet but he is opening up a lot of future plans with me.
2006-12-01 14:29:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He keeps on asking me where I plan to work, my plans after graduation,...... etc....... He is actually willing to delay his trip abroad just to wait for me.! i don't know what to do! because i know that i have a lot to fix with myself. but i was honest with him that im not ready but he still said he'd wait. But i dont want him to wait and hold his life still. I want him to go abroad and go forth his dreams. but he said he can't go there without me so if im not ready he'll wait. but im not sure about the future. i dont know what to do.
any words????????
2006-12-01 14:30:44 · update #1
it sounds like you should give him another chance. you said you wanted him to be ready. it sounds like he is. maybe you almost dieing woke him up to what he was missing out on.
2006-12-01 14:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot let pressure from someone, no matter how well intend, push you into doing something you don't feel ready for. If he insists on "waiting", let him wait...do what you want in the timeframe you want and don't let him force you into a committment or relationship you aren't ready for. Keep telling him, firmly by politly that you feal he should live his life and let you live yours and that if the two of you ARE meant to be together again, than LIFE will arrange it so that you are. But don't let him force the issue.
2006-12-01 22:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by harpertara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have feelings for him. go slow. my ex always did that to me. and i learned second chances dont mean ****. if it didnt work the first time guys usually dont change so the second time was a bust too. but just plan your own future and if he is in it then he is in it.
2006-12-01 22:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by Nisey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know what to do then do nothing until you are more certain. If he really loves you, he will give you the time you want.
2006-12-01 22:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a future
2006-12-01 22:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Martin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no
2006-12-01 22:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋