she seems scared of him but doesnt really say anything to him, and when she does, he doesnt listen to her. Last night we had to go help her after my husband got home from work because my father in law refused to go help her and left her stranded in a parking lot.. how do we confront him about his behavior before my 2 year old picks up on his behavior to much more?
2006-12-01 14:29:25 · 13 answers · asked by shortyonwheelz2005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your father in law knows exactly how badly he is treating his wife, but you know what? so does she and she allows it to happen. you saying something to him about it is not going to change him or how he treats her. she needs to be the one that stands up to him. not you. as far as your 2 year old. when he acts this way in front of the child, simply get up and leave when he ask why you are leaving come out and tell him that you don't want your child thinking that it is normal to treat a person the way he treats his wife. right to the point. it might mean more coming from your spouse.
2006-12-01 14:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any male that refuses to go out and help in spouse is not a man! Your husband should be blunt with his father and tell him that his actions and attitude are unacceptable. You, since you are a daughter in law, should not be directly involved. This is something your husband needs to attend to. Keep the boy away from this idiot.
2006-12-01 14:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by jack w 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow he sounds like a real jerk. But it sounds like he would be a hard guy to reason with. I can relate because my dad is actually very hard to reason with and he will never say he is wrong. I think the only way my dad realizes that what he is doing is wrong is when his feelings get hurt, or his behavior makes him feel bad. It seems like maybe the best way to deal with it is to have everyone get together and confront his behavior even though this may make him feel like he is being ganged up on. Its very hard to deal with people like this. best of luck to you.
2006-12-01 14:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont confront him, and if you do, keep it simple, and as peaceful as you can. Afterall you dont want her to end up in a real turmoil . Perhaps let him know what he is doing is wrong wrong , wrong! Or better yet, tell the wife to pack her bags, when he's at work, and leave his ***. The he will come home to no one and be wondering why..
2006-12-01 14:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There isn't much you CAN do. All you can do is keep your 2 year old away from him. He and his wife are set in their ways. She would have left by now if she was ever going to leave, and he won't change.
2006-12-01 14:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should have your husband talk to your father-in-law. If you say something, it may not be taken the right way.
Your husband could talk with him and explain what he is feeling so that your father-in-law does not get the wrong idea.
2006-12-01 14:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
by yelling he thinks hes top dog, but she has to stand up to him and let him know she not taking this crap from him any more. and if he want to talk she will listen but she will not stand there and be yelled at any more...it would also help if you all got together and talk to him , and let him know you don't treat people this way or any thing ESL for that matter.
2006-12-01 15:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Becky ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to intervene right away and sit them both down. Your husband needs to tell him that it's inappropriate to treat her that way. Verbal abuse is often a precursor for physical abuse. If you love her and don't want your children learning it you need to help stop it.
2006-12-01 14:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't confront him, that's not up to you. You can tell the wife you are there to support her, but, ultimately, it's none of your business. If she doesn't want to do anything, there's nothing to you can do. You can give her the resources she needs if she wants to leave him, but, doesn't matter what you say, you won't change his behaviour.
2006-12-01 14:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by bon b 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if she is stranded, he has ta help her
my sis was stranded and her guy wouldn't help cuz he was partying and playing guitar
they got divorced 10 years later, she should have noticed that sign
his friend stole her
2006-12-01 14:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋