Now me and my girl broke up like 3 weeks ago. Come to find out a week and a half ago she started kicking it with this guy from work. Now here is the thing. I am 29, she is 21, and he is like 17-18. She says he is just a friend and nothing is going on between them. she says that he likes her but she already told him she is not ready for a relaitonship because she is not sure if we are going to work things out or not. But yet she kicks it with him all the time and things of that nature. I think something is going on... but hten again he is 18 and lives with his parents so it is possible nothing is happening... what should i believe? She says she misses me and doesnt think it is over between us... but she is spending so much time with him... what do I do. I love her more than anything
2006-12-01 14:20:51 · 22 answers · asked by lost_93710 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ditch the *********.
tank the skank
2006-12-01 14:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by stylzz17 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would she feel the need to hang out with someone who has made it clear to her that he is interested. Put your self back into his shoes you at 17 what did you want???? Exactly... If you guys are broken up she can really do whatever she wants. but probably to save the your feelings she won't tell you the whole truth. Your 29 she's 21 she has not interest in being tied down at that age. Maybe you should move on. I know that is hard to do but it may be better in the long run. Or tell her how you feel tell her you are uncomfortable with her hanging out with this new dude. Even though as we established you have no say on who she can kick it with, but see what her reaction is to you telling her it makes you uncomfortable. Good Luck!
2006-12-01 22:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by Songbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is something going on between them. I know it is hard, but try to move on. Why did you break up in the first place? Maybe the reason you feel like you can't live without her NOW is because she is with another guy. Jealousy can do that to you. And it sounds like she is out having fun, so you should go out and have fun too. Meet new people, and hopefully you can find the girl who is really right for you.
2006-12-01 22:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17-18 is in her age range so don't doubt that she has interests in the person.. she just may. Also.. she is young and will probably be doing a lot of testing before she finally settles on the right guy. Either way, there's nothing you can do to control the situation or her feelings so just do something positive for yourself and time will tell.
2006-12-01 22:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to move on. She's obviously very immature if she gives you any reason to suspect that she's "kicking around" with another guy, not to mention the fact that he's so young. Move on and meet other people. No one deserves to deal with a girl like that. Try to find a woman that's more mature and closer to your age. I know you may love her, but trust me, this girl is worth letting go. If you were meant to be together, she would never do this to you. I hope everything works out.
2006-12-01 22:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by obsdabeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like papa needs a new bag. Hey man, really. Dish out a little of what you've been getting served lately. Find someone to hang with for a little while. If she expects it to be cool with you then it has to work both ways. Besides, she's probably just a skank ho anyway robbing the cradle. You are young enough to have more than one girlfriend anyway.
2006-12-01 22:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can look at it both ways maybe she does just need a friend to be around but if thats the case she is just leading him on bc he is a younger guy who thinks he might have a chance so what im saying is either way she is wrong for being with another guy she emotions with him while she has you both by a string playing with each of your hearts i say dont call her dont answer her calls and see what she does if she loves you she will make a way to find and see you and if she dont find you you was so much better off good luck
2006-12-01 22:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by harleygirled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into couples counseling with her, and make her tell the cpounselr the truth about who the other guy is and what they've been doing.
My guess is that she is having a fling and is lying to you, if she';s not with you. I'd hang low, get some interests, and realize you are not in any condition to realize you are actually in love with who you want her to be, and not who she actually is. YOu have felll in love with loive, not that person, my guess.
read: How to be your pown best friend.
2006-12-01 22:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all like to believe what we want to but, in this case, I think you are better off finding someone who isn't so immdediately interested in dating right away. Give it time! In the meanwhile, check out some other fish in the sea. Good luck.
2006-12-01 22:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to stay buisy it keeps her from thinking about the break up. If she hasnt ever lied before no reason to start doubting her now. If your both wanting to work it out then start know time like the present. Ask her to lunch or just ask her if she wants to do something like the movies, or somthing you both enjoy. Its just my opinon.
2006-12-01 22:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by samcamcam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you were in a serious relationship she probably just needs someone around, a guy, even if he is really young. if she is saying she does think you could get back together that is a good thing. at least she isnt just moving on with a really young guy.
2006-12-01 22:25:15 · answer #11 · answered by Nisey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋