Been seeing this guy on and off for a few months and like any relationship we've had our ups and downs. Just when I think everything's going to be ok a coworker of his comes to me and says he's been saying horrible things about me. DOnt know why but I chose to believe this person. I sent my man a nasty text message we fought back and fourth via text message he denies saying anything bad and I now believe him. I've apologized but he wont even talk to me now. I really want to work things out with him.
2006-12-01 14:08:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's been a few days now and he's still NOT speaking to me. Looks like I really did mess things up. IT IS all my fault. :-( Thanks all for your help.
2006-12-03 14:09:24 · update #1
You give him time to digest your apology. If he comes back then he had true feelings for you. If he doesn't come back then he really didn't have as much interest in you as you might have thought. Either way you can't control the situation. He'll come to his own conclusions and (for the above reasons) either way he chooses will be all the better for you.
2006-12-01 14:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the age of immediate communication, it seems like people are far too eager and able to rush to judgement. We actually used to have to get the person on the phone line before we could even begin to make assumptions; let alone voice them.
I'm not assuming that either the b/f or the coworker are to blame; I'm just saying that sometimes it's good to think before you act. If he gives you another chance try to remember how you felt this time and then try even harder not to do it again in the future. Give him the benefit of the doubt next time.
Not to mention the cost of text messaging!
2006-12-01 22:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who just had a baby 1 month ago by this guy she met last year. They haven't married yet, but she wants too soon. I have heard rumors that he's been going out on her, and he also brags to HIS co-workers about all these other flings he's had with other girls. He has two other children, and I think he's using my friend for a babysitter. She's BLIND and just wants to have this perfect marriage. Your question kind of makes me think you may be having the same type of relationship issues. If his co-workers are telling you that he's saying things about you, then there is a good chance he is. He's NOT going to tell you any differently either. I would investigate it a little more, and then NAIL HIM TO THE WALL if it turns out he's lied to you!
2006-12-01 22:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by SMRT1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the thing with alotta girls nowadays they believe whatever they hear right off the bat and don't do the research to find out what really happens for tehm selves..and that kinda ticks me off, so I believe that he's mad at you because you trusted an outsider in your relationship in stead of him, and not only did you trust that outsider but you did the same thing you thought he did to you, now ain't that nice, as far as i'm concerned he has a right to be mad at you, but you still just gotta tell him whats on your mind and that your sorry to make things better again, just keep trying and if he won't hear you out he's immature
2006-12-02 10:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can say it IS your fault... You chose to believe his co-worker at a very amateur situation... You should have thought twice before you leaped to action.... I've experienced that situation before and, like you, I didn't know what to do... But I didn't left it like so... What I did was, I asked a friend of ours to play 'monkey in the middle'. No, its not that kid game. Our friend talked to him and asked him about that situation. Then he'll tell me what my man told him and so on and so forth... If he still doesn't forgive you after all your troubles, I suggest you let time pass through... As the saying goes... There are no wounds that the earth has that time cannot heal... Best of luck!!....
2006-12-01 22:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by paipaisiomai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be hard to fix. You should have talked to him about it before going off on him. You need to apologize again and let him know that NEXT TIME you wil talk to him before you believe someone else and that you guys will talk when you have problems. Communication is important in any relationship and it makes it strong. Good luck.
2006-12-01 22:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever ever ever fight via TEXTING !!!!
Stand up and face the person and ALWAYS give them the first chance to state their case.
Give him time and wait and see what he does. If you have apologized like you said, then he heard you and he will have to make a choice as to what to do about it.
2006-12-01 22:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by CrystalChaser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like on of those live and learn situations. Learn to trust, or at the very least not jump to conclusions and behave poorly with those conclusions.
Frankly I wouldn't talk to you either. Good luck.
2006-12-01 22:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget what everyone else has said, tell your boyfriend you f*%@ed up and would like a second chance. Try to catch him off guard so he'll be forced to talk to you. Tell him you acted irrationally and want to talk things out like adults.
2006-12-01 22:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by Miz Enriques 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you shouldnt have listened to this suppose friend who told you this dont listen to nobody about stupid stuff like this you should have just asked him from the start now he is losing trust in your guys relationship you both need to talk about everything that bothers you or him and dont listen to anyone eles
2006-12-01 22:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by ladyluck356 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋