Okay. Well, my boyfriend has had wrestling practice all week, and he doesn't get home till 10. And i'm not allowed to talk on the phone after 9 on school nights. And my dad PERSONALLY told his dad that he can't call after 9, so his dad said that he would tell him to call me at 8:45 from his dad's cell phone. And he hasn't done that. So, I havn't heard from him except once this week and that was on myspace. So, today he was on myspace and i asked him why hasn't called, and he said b/c he doesn't get home till 10 then his dad makes him run {{Which i know thats true}}, but i told him that his dad said he would call this week at 8:45, and that he needs to get his facts straight! He responds back saying for one i do have my facts straight and two i told you that i havn't called this week b/c of that{{in a smart way}}. So, what should i do or say to him next?
2006-12-01 14:08:18 · 10 answers · asked by Ash! :D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is it that important that you speak to him for 15mins before 9? Does he not have a mobile so he could text you? Or can you not email each other, so that you can both respond when it's convenient for each of you? Do you not see each other at school, so you guys can get to talk then? Or how about hanging at weekends, unless he wrestles then also? There are many ways you guys could make sure you stay in touch, but ultimatly, it's important that you both respect the rules each of your fathers have set down for you, but i'm sure you guys can work around it.
2006-12-01 14:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by sarz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a busy guy. Try to be a little more understanding in that if you both are in this relationship as a couple and do believe eachothers' word, then just trust him. If he's busy. He's busy. That doesn't mean he's trying to avoid you, or whatever you think. I know it's hard to not hear from the man you care for. Just give him some time. The next time you talk, mention your concern. He should understand, but you should understand that he can't always be there. Things will come up. Just chill. He's with you. Talk it out. You two will be fine.
2006-12-01 22:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by chee_poo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys hate it when a girl dogs then all the time. Cut him some slack. He's bustin his @ss and then gets jumped on by his girlfriend. You are going to drive him away. I know you are young and "can't help the way you feel" but get over yourself. He might not have time, but once a week. You better be thankful that you see him (or talk to him) at all. I promis, you won't die if you don't talk to him every single day. It just feels that way. When you grow up and are more mature, you will see what I mean. And you will look back and think "what an idiot" & you'll be embarassed. We all did it, we all get thu it. Just be nice to him and have a little trust in him.
2006-12-01 22:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both your Dads are getting in the middle of this and trying to make it hard for you to date. Probably because they don't want either of you to get side-tracked from school and end up pregnant and married too soon. He must have been telling you the truth. He is upset that both dads are trying to control the situation in the background. By putting him on the spot (especially when he's tired from school and sports all day), you are taking a chance that you will re-direct his anger at his Dad to YOU. Be more flexible and understand that you are both in school and need to think about your own responsibilities for succeeding in school and with sports. You should be thinking about how to prepare for college and how to make the best grades you can now. Boys come last right now. Are you trying to get married before you are 19 or something?
2006-12-01 22:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by MandaPanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not willing to put any effort into the relationship then maybe you should seriously think about this:
how often do you see him or speak to him
are you really happy in the relationship
and i am really sorry to say this but if he is not willing to put any effort into the relationship then maybe you should think about weather it is really worth being in the relationship but before you think about that talk to him and let him know how you feel and that you want to be able to spend a little bit more time together than what you already are.
sorry about that but i have been in a relationship like that before and the best thing i for me was to get out and get over the relationship then look at dating agan
2006-12-01 22:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by megan p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably mad at his dad and some of his frustration is comeing out on u.Maybe back off a little on criticizing him he's probably just stressed out. But if u know that what he's saying to you is wrong or a lie then dump him before he gets to bad.
2006-12-01 22:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a lot like me about 10 years ago, My advise is that you should give him some space, trust him. If you cant trust your boyfriend, then why are you together. Relationships are about trusting each other. If he is pay attention to you at school and as much as he can without it interrupting his sports, well then he likes you!! Just give him some space and trust.
2006-12-01 22:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by My girls are my life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is feeling kind of smothered even if you aren't actually. Guys get really weird when they feel any of their free time being questioned. Just leave him alone for a couple of a couple of days and he will want to talk then because he will know what it feels like.
2006-12-01 22:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by lilbabygoodoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that if he wants to be with you then he needs to put some time aside to spend with you, otherwise you 2 shouldnt be together because you have no time to spend together.
2006-12-01 22:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BYE
2006-12-01 22:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋