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my husband comes from a family of 4, 2 girls/2 boys, and he would drop everything in a second to help someone especially his mother, however she quite openly favours her daughter and son-in-law to the point where she won't even ring to wish her other children happy birthday, because she was out shopping for something for her daughter or son-in-law it makes me so mad because she(mother-in-law) always talks about when they have kids and what cute grandkids they will be and what great parents they will be but hardly ever makes an attempt to see our daughter (her already now and only grandchild) I know this affects my husband (even though he dosen't talk about), but short of shipping her to some remote island I just don't know what to do. I know it must sound childish but as a mother I just don't see how she can show such blatent and sometimes hurtful favouritism. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

2006-12-01 13:56:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

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She is shallow and should not favour but you cannot say anything about it she will just defend herself and pretend she doesn't no what you mean. People like that disgust me to. Just try to enjoy the family you do have around you and one day she might regret this but it will be her regret for missing out on so much of everyone lives not yours.Goodluck she is a snob

2006-12-01 14:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by kurme 3 · 0 0

I had the exact situation in my first marriage. His sister was given cars, money, and taken on fancy trips. My husband would get a card with $20 for his birthday.

One year we had "family Christmas" with his family. His sister and her child were there. They received gifts along with the rest of us.

Then on Christmas day my husband had to run to the store. When driving by his sister's house he saw his parents car in the driveway. He decided to stop and say hello. He ended up catching them having a second Christmas celebration with expensive gifts for his sister and her family. His mother was trying to cover up but there was no use.

We decided to stop expecting anything from them. They will not change. We accept that they will act in an unfair way and they have lost out on a relationship with our kids. THEIR loss.

By the way, this all happened 15 year ago. My kids are teens now and everyone is very much at peace with the situation. We taught them to accept what we could not change.

2006-12-01 14:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0 0

Heyyy That replaced into quite merciless of your sister in regulation its easy why she did what she did. Shes yet another slender minded person who believes that blood is each thing, she could purely be your husbands a million/2 sister yet in her eyes thats sufficient to make her area of the family. That replaced into very incorrect of her, i understand she has apolagized yet ask her why is she apolagizing, does she even understand why she is in the incorrect? she could be asserting sorry without quite understanding why. at the beginning, it is your activity as dad and mom to handle all the infants the two as a results of fact infants are a modern-day from god it doesnt remember in the event that they are your very own or accompanied, which i'm able to tell out of your message which you and your husband already do. Secondly, if i replaced into you i will possibly in no way have prevalent the presents if i knew that they had neglected one newborn out. Like they say in case you dont have sufficient to grant to all of them dont supply in any respect. yet besides the fact that in case you prevalent the presents and later realised that one newborn did no longer get something you may have the two back all the presents that she had despatched or gave one on your behalf inclusive of a card telling your newborn that it replaced into from the sister in regulation. You dont choose the youngster to sense ignored or unloved. Your sister in regulation could be ashamed, sense sorry for her infants.

2016-10-17 14:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by winstanley 4 · 0 0

Confront her about it!!!She probably doesn't even know what she is doing.The daughter and son-in-law she was talking about is probably her last.Every parent does that 2.I am the 2nd oldest and my sister is 23 and my mom would not even talk 2 her until she told her about it.

2006-12-01 14:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0 0

been there done that. You can point out to her alone what you feel, it wont help. Deal with it.
I have the T Shirt.

2006-12-01 14:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 0 0

you cant change her so take her with a grain of salt and love her

2006-12-01 14:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by wil_t52 6 · 0 0

the answer is found already
FAVOURITISM ... nothing else can change it
LIVE with it ...

2006-12-01 13:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Martin T 2 · 0 0

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